we went on our first date yesterday we both like eachother and are looking for a long term thing the chemistry is so intense that we spent the whole two hours of our meeting kissing, im going to his house on friday night and just wondering how long i should wait before making love with him as we both dont want one night stands he stated that
2007-01-15 23:16:53 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd wait until you've got in the door.
2007-01-16 00:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, it's great that you've found someone you like, but as you say you've only been on one date so don't rush into anything. As you spent the whole time kissing, you haven't really got to know him yet so i wouldn't leap straight into bed. If you're both looking for a long term thing and it works out then you've got the rest of your lives to have sex, so enjoy this period of getting to know each other. It depends how often you see each other/speak. I would say wait at least a month, but if you only see each other twice in that month then obviously wait longer. You will know when it feels right and even if you are eager to rip each other's clothes off now, the anticipation of waiting a few weeks will make it even better when you do. If you feel you won't be able to stop things happening on Friday then maybe meet up for a drink or a meal or go to the cinema instead of going to his house. Also if he makes a move or starts pressuring you to take things further, just explain to him you have a one month rule and if he really likes you as you say he will respect that and if he can't respect that he obviously didn't like you as much in the first place. I don't know how old you are or how many sexual partners you've had in the past, but it is good to talk about your sexual histories before sleeping with someone, and this can be an indicator, if you're not comfortable talking about this with each other, you're not ready to sleep together. Good luck and don't rush things, just enjoy them when they happen.
2007-01-15 23:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by boop a doop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, just because the chemistry is good, that doesn't mean you'd wanna have sex straight away. If the passion between the both of you is so intense, why not wait for the right time? If it's special, the intimacy will greatly increase. In my opinion, you two should wait until you really know each other.
2007-01-15 23:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Addikt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations!
i am pleased for u both.
as u seem to get on so well, it is entirely up to the both of u.
most Christians would say wait until u r married
but I would say that if u love each other, talk about it or
maybe just let it happen. do not rush in tho, u should both know
when the time is right. if u rush in bcos u think it is
the expected thing to do rather than feel it to be right, u may spoil things.
one of the best relationships I ever had was one without sex at all. plenty of kissing tho. I spend a lot of time trying to rediscover the feelings I had at that time.
all the best.
xoxox
2007-01-15 23:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't go to his house on the 2nd date.
He will never say so, but he will definately looking for sex. Even not in intention, he will somewhere in his heart, and you will feel the tension.
If you want the relationship to last long, try to go out and do something more than kissing each other. Go out for skating, watch a film, leave each date for only 2-3 hours in the beginning.
For your answer "when should I have sex", it depends on the person, but for me, never have sex if you're not sure what your relationship with him is.
Only have sex if he tells you he wants you for his girlfriend. If not, you'll just be a friend who could have sex with.
I know there will be lots of entencement since you two are very into each other now. But try to extend that feeling till he says that he wants to be with you officially.
For this weekend, tell him you have some errands for your familly or something, and have to leave early. He will understand you and love to meet you outside if he cares for you enough.
Trust me on this, it's very very important!!
2007-01-15 23:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said that did he? Must have been about the only words he got out since you spent the whole two hours kissing. Watch out!
Sounds like your really asking: 'How soon can I have sex with him without feeling cheap and used.' Sound's like you want to have sex but you know most relationships starting with that don't last, you need to build up to it. Or you're afraid that if you hold out on him too long you might loose him?? So you need to 'buy' the relationship you want by giving him sex?
And I just noticed the words 'perfect for me'. His tongue fits in your mouth and you've decided he's perfect?
2007-01-15 23:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woa !! Moving way to fast ! First of all, you should ask yourself if sex is all that you expect from this guy. If so, then move at any pace. Secondly, it WILL turn ugly with an attitude like yours.
I have never even thought of kissing until about a month into a relationship.
Slow down, take a breather. One morning you will hopefully wake up and say to yourself, "What was I thinking. . . . ."
Good luck !!
2007-01-15 23:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are so many factors to this question and so many opinions you may get. What is important I feel is that the other parts of the relationship work - if they do, when the time comes it will be right and amazing! I would wait until you do more than just kiss when you meet...
2007-01-15 23:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe whenever it feels right, but never at the first opportunity. I don't say make HIM wait coz u probably want to just as much, but it will make you more respected if you dont do it at the first chance. I would stay over at his one time but do nothing, then after that it's your choice. There is nothing wrong with waiting if you want to.
2007-01-16 00:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't give yourself to anyone without your heart and brain acting together. I mean go for it if would like, But, if something or he just says that you are the only that has deal with what ever comes your way. Please sure this a long time relaionship, because if he's not true blue, then there's no caring,
Think before you do anything
2007-01-15 23:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by blue_eyedpixies2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait awhile, enjoy each other, sex is the ultimate and worth waiting for but be sure, so wait awhile. This is old fashioned thinking I suppose but once the step is taken there is no going back, make sure.
2007-01-15 23:24:48 · answer #11 · answered by Branded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋