so what do you say to a stepmother who treats you and your sister like such dirty that it drives your older sister to move out and leave you by yourself in the house, along with an uncaring father and a group of teachers that you are suppose to trust but they have a big secret relationship with you stepmother somehow. Anyone have any idea what i could say to the stepmother and teachers? Keeping in mind i can't live with my mom because she is no longer living. Please HELP ME!
2007-01-15 22:51:58 · 8 answers · asked by Eddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a very tough situations to be in and my heart goes out to you because of your mothers death. I know this is going to be hard but do you think that maybe you hold some resentment towards everyone right now?
Could It be possible that maybe you should stop yourself and look how you are responding to your step mom, teachers and dad?
Try sitting down with your step mom and dad and tell them your having a really hard time and youd like to find solutions to how you all can make things better. Don't argue with them or be rude. This is to try to take a step back and look at ways you can all make things better.
Then talk with your teachers and tell them that you would like to improve things as well. Make an honest effort to improve and concentrate on your studies.
If there is a counselor or clergy/pastor minister or trusted adult you can confide in as well. It may help to have someone you can trust to talk to.
Alot of times even though we think adults have all the answers and should know what theyre doing they dont always. It could be that your step mom, dad and teachers do not know how to handle the situation that is going on.
One thing that may help you, is to get involved with activities at school, or a church that you feel comfortable in.
Remeber you cant change people but you can change the way you respond to them. Instead of arguing with them it is sometimes better to agree to disagree with them or say Im sorry and walk away. This shows that your the bigger person in all this.
I will keep you in my prayers. Remeber even though your step mom can never replace your mom, she could be a friend to you if you allow her. And I bet your dad cares about you but is really hurting inside and just doesnt know how to handle everything.
My prayers are with you. good luck.
2007-01-15 23:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to consult with the local social workers and tell them your story. It is realy sad to live unhappy life cause no one deserve it. I am sorry about your mother but dont loose hope on life now. Also try to talk to your pastor and some close relaltives see if they wont help. Don't say anything to them but talk to them silently by building your life. Show them that you will make it in life. As for your father, he is still blinded by love but later he will regret. Parents seem to forget that life is now is different than in their times. Don't give in someone out there somewhere is waiting to hear you cry out so he/she can wipe those tears away.
I wish you all the best of luck and that you find help soon before you loose yourself. It is a good thing you asked for help it shows you have hope.
2007-01-16 08:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by MEMSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If teachers aren't listening, it's because for some reason you have turned their own views to the negative.
Try speaking with another family member, or preacher. How old is this sister of yours? Is she old enough to take you under her wing?
Try a grandparent.
Also try becoming a student in which the teachers may look up to.
2007-01-16 06:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to do: I would look for my sis. If you can't try to spend more time at friends' houses.
to say: It's up to my father since you are NOT my parents
Plz don't call the woman a ***** cuz that is what I said and I got GROUNDED alright
2007-01-16 06:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. Can you move with your sister?Of not, don't retaliate. Mum's the word unless you can find another solution.
2007-01-16 06:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to a school counsellor or minister about your problem??? One of them might be able to help you. Good Luck.
2007-01-16 07:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you move in with another realitive, aunt or uncle.
Talk to your priest or preacher and ask for guidance.
2007-01-16 07:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agreed with minona
2007-01-16 07:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by heartattack262000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋