does anyone think it is wrong for a 19 year old to date a 15 year old when they been friends forever?

Question

if so do you think its wrong for an 18 year old to date a 23 year that she just met

she is more mature than me we both dont want to have sex till where married since we have met we talked about dateing why is it so wrong for people to think a 15 year cant date a 19 years old in a month she can drive a car and kill some a be putt in jail for life but people think it wrong for her to date a friend she really likes

we became close friends while i was a senior and she was a sophmore in high i graduated she will graduate this year in march so why is it wrong to date a senoir in high school when i'm a fresh men in college

Answer 1

I think that that is primarily up to the parents of the minor, particularly if the older person in the relationship doesn't want to end up in a world of legal hurt.

For my daughter, who turns 16 next week, I don't want her dating anybody who is not in high school. Why? Because the level of life experience between a high school age person and a college age person is quite large and I feel that young people should date within their own peer group so that they don't feel additional pressures to grow up faster than they are ready to do.

The emotional and mental and even cultural (favorite music, etc) differences between a fifteen and nineteen year old are pretty big.

As you get older, age differences don't matter as much. I still think that four or five years is a pretty big age gap when talking about an 18 year old and a 22 year old, and would PREFER that my daughter didn't date somebody that much older - but at 18 she has the legal right to make up her own mind about that. I would just hope that she would follow my advice on it.

By the time you're in your late twenties/thirties, five years isn't a very big difference. Culturally, emotionally, etc, you're a lot more compatible.

When I was 35, I married a man ten years my junior. We had been a couple for five years, since he was twenty. This was a huge mistake. Here was a guy telling me that Tiffany (if you remember her) was a great songwriter because, hey, she wrote that "I Think We're Alone Now" and "I Saw Him Standing There" (These are songs that came out in the early 1960s. Tiffany wasn't even born yet!) and asking me who Janis Joplin was. The marriage fell apart for many reasons, but one of them was lack of common CULTURAL UNDERSTANDING. When the wife wants to listen to the Rolling Stones and the husband wants to crank up Nirvana, it can be weird.

So, in my opinion, the younger the people are, the better it is if they stay close to their own age group when dating/marrying. The older they are, the less likely there will be weirdness.

A twist on your question that might help you put more perspective on it:

Do you think it is wrong for an 18 year old to date a 13 year old?

Good luck in your life, I hope you make good choices for yourself, whatever those choices may be. :)

Answer 2

You should be in college; while this girl is a sophomore in high school. By your logic 15 year old and 11 year old is OK. We are talking about maturity of the body and mind in the ages. You are at the age where you start to search and define yourself as a young man. She is still "caught up" in high school state of mind.
The best thing for the both of you is to stay friends and wait.

I question do you have anything else going on in your life. Are you trying to settle down with a 15 year old? 19 year olds with aspiration in life aren't usually trying to "raise" a teenager!!

Answer 3

One it's never really a good idea to start dating a long time friend because if it doesn't work out then the friendship would be awkward. As far as the 18yr old and the 23yr old, they are both grown but take time to get to know the person a little.

Answer 4

friendship is different then a relationship, if its meant to work then why not wait until they are of age, keep being friends and let the 15yr grow up a little and go from there.

Answer 5

Age is just a number, it is your maturity level that is going to matter.

Answer 6

yea...fifteen is contributing eighteen isnt..its just that simple and if you were dating my daughter i guarantee it wouldnt be a problem for long if you catch my drift.