Pregnant how do i tell my mom?

Question

Please help. I am 22 and i have a little girl i found out yesterday that i was pregnant, i told my boyfriend of nearly 3 years he is happy and so is his family but when i found out i was pregnant last time my whole family wanted me to get rid i never but it was a horrible time for me. it isnt the same bf now with my little girl they didnt like her father but i think they like the bf i have now i am living with him. i need some advice on how to tell my family that i am pregnant with out them going mad and try to make me get rid again (my mom said if i ever got pregnant again she would disown me) please help

Answer 1

mums always say that sort of thing but it's just to scare you so you don't do it! she's your mum she brought you in to the world. you just have to be honest and tell her, your old enough to do things your way. good luck! x

Answer 2

First of all congratulations!
You are speaking as if you have done something wrong. You haven't!
You have a lifestyle that some people would do anything for. A steady relationship, your own house, a little girl and a new baby on the way. You've got a hell of alot going for you. It's your family that have the problem and if your mum feels that way then it's her loss.
Also I'm guessing that she said such horrible things the first time you were pregnant as you were alot younger and she was obviously upset, angry and scared. You are older now and i am sure you haven proven yourself to be a good mum.

Answer 3

Never easy, no matter what age. I was 32 with my second and still dreaded telling my mum!
Try to be honest, tell her your fears of her feelings towards the whole situation. You're obviously older now and assume you've managed with your little girl.
At the end of the day, if your boyfriend and his family and YOU are happy, then at your age, your family should be mature and supportive enough to respect your feelings and wishes without interfering.
They certainly do not have the right to force you into anything you don't want to do.
Good Luck

Answer 4

Darl you are an adult now in charge of your own life and capable of making your own decisions,

I would suggest you invite your parents round for a meal at a time when your daughter is around so they can see the joy that she brings then explain that you have some good news for them (accentuate the GOOD) that you are to have another baby and how wonderful it will be for your girl to have a playmate.

I had similar problems with my parents when i had my youngest, i was 17 when i had my eldest and mum wasnt happy but adored my girl and got really close to her, then i got a new partner and 4 years later fell pregnant with my son and although mum never said she wanted me to get rid of him it has been harder for her to bond with him than my girl, i put this down to myseslf being the only child and mum wanting things to remain!!!

All will be well good luck xxx

Answer 5

I think your mum's being extremely unsympathetic. When I saw your question I wondered if you were perhaps 16 or so; but as you're obviously old enough and experienced enough to know what you're letting yourself in for, I think you should make sure in your own mind that you're happy with it first, then tell them.

If your partner (of three years, so not exactly an accidental one-night-stand pregnancy!) and his family are happy, then you need to transmit this happiness to your mum. The chances are if your family like your current bloke, and you approach the subject sensitively, then she'll have changed her mind anyway - It's not up to her how many more children you have!

Good luck!

Answer 6

You're old enough to live your own life. You're pregnant so what. It's nothing to do with your family. You're starting your own family and don't have to justify this, especially if your boyfriend shares this happiness with you . But next time you Yahoo use punctuation, it was hard to read your text.
Have a nice day and Congratulations !

Answer 7

you could not mention it untill you too far gone to abort but only if the hard feelings that will cause are less than breaking it to her tactfully. if your in a more stable situation than befor she should be calmer. last time she may have been afraid that it would ruin your life

consider getting engaged to the bf if you think that will make a difference. but before you tell her about the baby tell her you bf wants one and give her a little time to adjust to it

Answer 8

i think your mother wants you to be successful and married before having children. its natural. maybe you will feel the same when you are older. im sure your mother wants you to have children and a family.

most likely, she wants you to do it in a certain sequence. if you have two babies without being married, its an awful lot of responsibility for you without being in a lifelong committed relationship. i think your mother is concerned about that as well as the social acceptability of it all. she may view it as a poor reflection on herself.

in the end, you are making the decisions. your mother must decide if she wishes to accept you or not. good luck.

Answer 9

Congratulations! Oh, this is so hard to answer. Maybe you should just not tell them. Wait until you are four or five months along, or something. If your bf could be there with you, you could present a united front and maybe your mom would not make such a deal about it.

Answer 10

Look at it this way, you're 22, certainly old enough to be having children, you're with a different guy this time, maybe they won't be so worked up this time? If anything, break it to them gently. If they don't like it then they should deal with whatever issues they have with you. It is your baby, and if you're happy then they should be happy too. Maybe ask them what problem they have with you having babies?

Answer 11

your body, your child, this is your choice. Just tell her over dinner or while relaxing with her. Don't raise your voice or get mad if she gets upset though. Stay calm and remind her that your daughter is a joy in your life and this child's father is there for you and will continue to be there for you and the children, if she's still upset then give her time.