I have a huge problem there is this guy in my church that doesn't wanna take a hint we were friends but now he keeps on asking me out and I keep on telling him that I'm not intersted in him in that way and that i like someone else but he doesn't listen so I told him we can't be friends any more and that he must stop contacting me. And now I have this fear that he might start stalking me I haven't heard from him since I told him this last night when he send me a sms and send him one back saying he must stop cause he's freaking me out but what do I do if he makes contact again. Please help.
I didn't lead him on.
2007-01-15 21:57:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm turning 21 this year
2007-01-15 22:14:41 · update #1
Wel, I can come over there one night and scare him away. lol
2007-01-17 08:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by chainciw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some folks just can't take no for an answer.
DO NOT have any contact with this person what so ever -- Not even to tell him not to contact you anymore.
If you are a minor then enlist the aid of your parents. Tell them what you have told us and that you are afraid.
If you are an adult then my advice to you is --If he does continue and you feel that he is stalking you --go to the police and let them handle it.
2007-01-16 06:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking his calls or messages - he sees any response as a positive outcome and will continue to make further contact!
Following this, if he continues to pursue you, speak to your minister or someone else who knows you both well, and ask them to speak to him. He probably thinks you're playing hard-to-get, so if someone else brings your feelings to his attention, hopefully he will take it more seriously.
Surround yourself with close, protective friends who will gently send him away if he tries to approach you in the near future. Perhaps you could write down exactly how he is making you feel, with clear details that this is the LAST TIME you intend to make contact with him - and get that to him.
Good luck!
2007-01-16 06:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to the pastor at the church and explain what is going on to him and see if that helps but if not, get a restraining order from the police. Keep a copy of what else he sends you on your computer in case you need that as evidence as well!! Good luck with that!!
2007-01-16 06:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry the chances are he will find another girl soon.
Secondly, he could be gentleman enough not to disturb you.
Lastly, if some problem happens again ask a question.
2007-01-16 06:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Arnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've told him several times not to call you again, right? So, if he does, you'd better refer it to the police so that they keep an eye on him! Just in case! Remember! Better safe than sorry!
2007-01-16 06:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by DennisEvanescence 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is following the classical method of wooing his love till she says yes. I advise you to enjoy his chase and wooing but always reply him with a polite 'no'. When he realizes the classical method no more works, he will give up his chase, and try other tactics, maybe with a different girl. So you are spared
2007-01-16 06:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have made it clear to him that he MUST NOT pursue you. If he persists, seek the help of Police.
2007-01-16 06:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice would be if he does it again ignore him maybe he has got the hint your not interested now good luck with it all
2007-01-16 06:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by maryjane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He crazy. i think that you should get a restraining oder and leave him along no talking just get away from him
2007-01-16 06:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by jans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋