Father not allowed to see him or talk to him. Whereas the boy was very close to his father.
2007-01-15 21:55:36 · 8 answers · asked by krsna_2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If the boy was very close to his father I think he'd be hurting a lot. He'd most likely suffer seperation anxiety, and possibly be fearing going to sleep at night, playing up a little looking for attention, these are signs my daughter had when I had to stop her from seeing her dad. I know that it hurt her as she adored him so much, but it was the best thing for her, and now she has her dad back in her life I see those same signs coming back after she spends time with him. It is a very hard situation and a very grey area. It's hard to know exactly what is right for everyone, but if it is beyond the fathers control I am suspecting this boy will grow atatched to an uncle or grandfather, family friend to help with the void of not having his father with him. At 4 yrs people would still consider him not much more than a baby, but children sense things and have a far better understanding of situations than we give them credit for. My daughter left her dad at when she was about 21/2 and she still remembers toys her dad gave her, and places we used to go, she remembers the house. Hopefully he will not forget his father and hopefully his mother will keep the memory alive and not tarnish it with any ill feelings she has toward the childs father. Best of luck to the boy.
2007-01-15 22:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on the mom in the situation. If she badmouths dad a lot, the boy will grow up believing everything she says. It's called Parental Aliennation Syndrome (PAS). My husband wasn't allowed any contact with his then 4 yo daughter for over a year. It was sheer he** trying to deprogram her when we got custody. If this is a divorce situation, keep track of every time you try to contact your son. Fathers can get custody...my husband is living proof of that.
2007-01-16 02:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Carol S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be reasons for the father not being allowed to see him.
Sence most cases that involve no contact, that means only one thing in my mind...........the father is abusive in one way or many.
As for the son's state ofmind, he'll be healthier being apart from an absuer than around him. And hope by chance he doesn't grow up to be like him.
2007-01-15 22:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A son needs BOTH parents... being seperated from either would depend on how he is raised!! My son was seperated from his father at the age of 4 - as time went on the FATHER (by his own choice) slowly went out of my sons life... I RAISED HIM --- his mother - not father
Today my son is 18 - spent 3 years in JROTC, his rank: Cadet 1st LT. - he received a scholarship from Gatewat to College (funded by Bill Gates - Thank you Mr. & Mrs. Gates) & works in Applebee's- he is doing VERY WELL - I feared he would not go to college - & he plans on entering the United States Marine Corps - he STEPPED up to the plate to be the man of the house - he pays his own cell phone bill & car insurance, little extra's for himself & has even bought groceries (mostly the things he likes that I won't buy of course...translation "junkfood")...
so, what will his state of mind be?? It doesn't matter who is there - it's WHO is involved to nurture, teach, & love - I'm sorry my son missed out on his father - any man who is MAN enough to help create one should be MAN enough to raise one & fight to be in his son's life - BUT there are plenty of strong women who can RAISE a man without a MAN... I DID IT!
Go be a daddy! Mom's aren't supposed to do that job...
2007-01-15 22:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it. The relationship between a father and son is highly valued by the son wether or not it is valued by the father. So, this will be devestating and will have many consequences that will last many yrs.
2007-01-15 22:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by ScottyJae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but if you leave it too long (like years) to see him, he will most likely forget about you, not entirely but being a 4 year old they wouldn't know any better.
So it's important that you do what ever it is so that you can see your son on a regular basis.
But if his mother talks about you, shows him photo's of you ect.. than that is good.
Maybe you should go to family court so you can see him!
2007-01-15 22:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All young boys need a man's influence. To teach him of course how to be a man. For example pee'n standing up, fishin, hunting/shooting, man stuff and of course firm punishment when needed.
2007-01-15 22:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wood not wanna talk to u
2007-01-15 22:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by sean d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋