I am tentatively getting my children married knowing very clearly that these children are not going to take care of my future life.I am not employed and there are least chances of getting any employment.What should I do?
2007-01-15 21:50:43 · 10 answers · asked by Varanasi Sitarama Murthy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
children r elfish nowadays. but sir if u hav nobody to take care of urself n if u r growing too old, i wud suggest u to go to sum homes where u will get better treatment instead to b illtreated by ur children. thats a cruel n selfish world!!!!!!
2007-01-15 21:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sir,
It pains me to see your predicament. I think you should begin with having a more positive outlook about your children. It is not true that all children are ungrateful. If you believe this, perhaps your attitude towards them may automatically tend to be a little hostile towards them and they in turn will not tend to take care of you as they believe that you expect that from them anyway.
Please try and be positive towards your children. Let them know that they are all you have and that you are spending all your resources to marry them off. let them also know that you would be happy if they would take care of you in your old age as you have nobody to turn to. I am sure they will do so.
If you have a house of your own, try and save some money for your own upkeep so that you can be a little independant, else try and arrange to stay with each of them for short periods of time.
Best of Luck Sir, and wish you a peaceful and happy Life
2007-01-15 22:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not for a moment understand why you are speculating that the kids will dump you - after marriage. Dont be so harsh on them marriage has nothing to do with it. Eitherway if you are so sure then they have already left you.
Enjoy the celebrations but do not spend your savings. Look for work if healthy. People are working into their 80's these days. Also look for ways you can be useful to them in their routine lives and not a hurdle.
2007-01-15 22:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behaviour of your children after their marriages relatively depend upon the treatment you gave to your parents and your wife's parents.
These days, its not wise to depend upon the children at older ages. and that is the reason why there are somany old-age homes cropping up in the city. you can join them and do social service to the senior citizens there staying with them. Some are paid and some are charity homes.
Best of luck.
2007-01-15 22:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are unable to find pleasant atmosphere to live you can think of the following:
for immediate survival and to keep yourself engaged, better join any of voluntary/social organisations which are working for a particular cause
you can be helpful in any of the hospitals by serving the needy during visiting hours like, bringing food/medicine/other requirements as most of the patients will not have their own attendants to look after these small but crucial things
you can be helpful in taking kids to school and back, if the parents known to you for which they will be ready to help you
many of the organisations like Ramakrishna Mutt/Ashram, Art of Living, religious/educational institutions which are running innumerable charitable activities may you employment
2007-01-15 23:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by krishnachandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respected Sir, if you really know what will be happen after getting married your children and you have not any source of earnings in future.Please do not spend all of your life time earnings on their marriage.Although if you well educated your children and you have given indian SANSKARS to them they will really took after your future.Keep some handsome amount in your hand for your self respect.
2007-01-15 22:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by sanjay bhasin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sir,
I think Adil V is right. Try to think in a positive way. Anyway children ar urs. U know them better and if u still think they will not take care of u, then let them have their own way. Let them get married themselves and settle seprately. They will come to know ur value.
Best of luck and belive in God. No one but God will definitely take care of u.
2007-01-15 22:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It figures which you like your daughter very lots. If she is on speaking words with you, ask her what changes she thinks have arisen. i'm particularly particular that those are minor changes and making a mutual attempt to erase them might verify a greater helpful issues. attempt to on an identical time ward off factors of conflict, strengthen thoughts to problems the place you have a dissent or choose for incredibly of compromise. Compromise out of your facet could be greater helpful as you are the only whose greater mature and needs to restablish a relationship. do no longer rush this, however. provide her her area and time. permit her understand which you do shield her. I she's no longer on speaking words with you, attempt the smoothing technique taking the help of a mediator. i'm particular that with time, it's going to all be ok.
2016-12-12 12:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pl allow your children to live happyly as they want soon after marrying.you better minimise your dependency on them.you are responsible for bringing them up like that.[pempakam]
if you leave your ego,earning is not difficult now a days.
2007-01-15 22:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are lived alone from your children. your children will miss you
2007-01-15 22:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by sunny deol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋