My ex husband and I have been divorced for about 7 months now. He has since gotten a new girlfriend and for the life of me I can't stand her. It's not the part of her being with him, it's the fact that I found out she was doing drugs. He has weekend visits with my son and I don't want my son to be around her especially after finding this out. My son doesn't even like her, in his words because daddy doesn't spend any time with him when she's around. I don't want to force it either but how can I keep her away from my son and not violate the court order we have as far as visitation goes? I live in a small town so I hear that as soon as my ex gets back into town from working all week, he is looking for some "stuff" for her. Please....help me if you can. I want to do something about it before something happens to my son while he's in their care.
2007-01-15 21:35:37 · 11 answers · asked by single_momma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to present a good case before seeing a lawyer and going back to court. It is important that you try, but gather as much as you can before you make you're move.
Perhaps do a background check on her. That's legal and easy to do online. Next, document every thing you can about each visitation your son has with his father. When you feel you have enough to show concern, visit your lawyer. Unfortunately a "he said, she said" allegation about using drugs isn't going to be enough to persuade a judge. A threat of negligence or bad influence (using around your son) needs to be proven. Someone having a bad history of it usually isn't enough by itself.
2007-01-15 21:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in spite of how you experience approximately 'the custody element', circumstances like this are precisely why you have them. there will be circumstances which you 2 disagree on some thing, the custody settlement lays all of it out, and that's regulation. No, you could not get a retaining order for no reason, that is ridiculous.
2016-10-20 07:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by scharber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain!!! i've been through the same thing with my daughter. keep documenting EVERYTHING. i too live in a small town, and gossip spreads fast! i was hearing what a druggie my ex's new g/f was...it turned out to be so true. i was worried about something happening to my daughter in the care of these two incompetents. i refused visitation, as was slapped with contempt of court. i was pretty extreme. i had myself, family, and a couple of friends switch cars and park outside their house all weekend in case something happened! i was also afraid he'd kidnap her, as he and his psycho g/f threatned to to. if your ex is anything like mine....bide your time. soon enough, visits with his daughter will cut into their party time. after nearly 4 years....i persuaded my ex to sign away his parental rights, good luck hun!!!
2007-01-15 21:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could go back to court and air your concerns even give proof and ask that his visits are for him only to spend quality time with his son or ask for supervised visits make sure you get across you do not want this woman around your son as she is a drug abuser and you do not want your son influenced by her also let them know your son does not like being around her and feels his dad is not spending quality time with him good luck
2007-01-15 21:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
depending on how old your son is, can he choose which parent to be with, but you might be past that point. I would anonymously put a tip in with the police department about her drug usage and see where that goes, cause then, she might get caught with it; which would give her a record. Your best bet is to contact a family attorney regarding this issue to see what their opinion of the situation is. Family laws differ by state, so its hard to give a stright answer on here.
2007-01-15 21:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to go to family court&get a restainting order on her to keep her away from your son&if the father does not like that then you need to have his visitation made where it is supervise.
2007-01-19 10:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by georgiann_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i would say yes you can if you have proof. but if you can't proof that she does drugs i say no cause that you child father. if your son don't like her he have the right to say that he don't want to go over there.or where he want to go.
2007-01-15 21:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by jans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to court let them know what is going on
2007-01-16 01:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get solid evidence and go to the police.
2007-01-15 22:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to go to court.
2007-01-15 22:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by Stumped 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋