What does a man intend to do if they regester at a personals site like "sex finder"? What does it mean if he is in a relationship already-should the woman pack up and go after finding out?
2007-01-15 21:06:11 · 11 answers · asked by Mari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's testing the waters to find a woman (or other partner) on the side.
For some people it's the thrill of the possibility that someone else finds them attractive. But for most it's that they are sexually, emotionally, or in some other way unsatisfied and are trying to meet that need.
What's hurtful to spouses is these people don't mention it, talk about it, bring it up in any way. This inability to grow a backbone and confront the issue with their partner is what can cripple the relationship, since it ruins trust -- "he *says* he's okay, but that's what he said last time when he had been screwing that girl for 2 years." and so on.
If you discovered he is doing this, and he isn't telling you, he's a combination of [a] feeling unfulfilled (don't misinterpret that as you haven't being doing everything you can to fulfill him - you most likely have), [b] selfish as h e l l, and [c] having no spine but lacking enough respect for you to go behind your back.
The worst part is, despite their crying and pleading afterwards, cheaters rarely, if ever, change.
Be the responsible grownup, confront him by saying "I your terrible secrets about the personals web sites. If you tell me everything we have a chance of making it. If you leave out one tiny detail we are through." Then after he denies 159 times in 2 minuntes saying "Oh that web site was a pop-up - I must've accidentally clicked there" and "It was a joke, just a stupid whim, it means nothing" and all the other one million B U L L S H I T lies he's been rehearsing plus a few he makes up on the fly, you will know he can't confront and it's time to leave. If he does happen to tell you, you'll know he's a cheater, and THEN you can leave.
2007-01-15 21:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hit me in the gut the way cheating does, so it's kinda in the same books for me. After a couple times catching him, I disconnected the internet modem, and only plugged it in if me or my daughter wanted to use it. He doesn't pay rent. He doesn't buy groceries, and he doesn't pay the phone/internet bill, and I refuse to pay 50 bucks a month for him to look at porn. NOT on my bill, no way, no how. Things have been the s h i t s ever since I knew he was doing it, and I spent most nights on the couch. So I know exactly what you're going through, and you would not be wrong to leave him over it. I would've if I'd had the means, and somewhere to go, or anyone else to turn to, but I put up with it cause I don't want to be alone. So who wins in the long run? Ya know?
2007-01-15 21:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the place do I initiate? Run from the fool. If he fathered the newborn of yours, and you're a newborn to him, and now he's getting a profile? Run. Your first precedence is your newborn. You for sure have issues picking men. ignore approximately dating for a whilst. positioned all your efforts into your priceless newborn. evaluate adopting it out so it could have a sturdy mom-father kin. i'm slightly older than him, any 20 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous is astounding to confirm, yet particularly uninteresting, way too immature. You and him are completely different in desires and understanding. loose the loser.
2016-10-07 05:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out as soon as possible. It doesn't matter who you are, if he's doing that he will never be faithful. That happened to me once, I was in New York on a modeling trip, my boyfriend at the time even came to visit me. The day I got back to Ohio I was at his house and he had to get ready for our date, so I asked if I could sign on his computer. I was looking for a list of things to send to my brother in Iraq, when suddenly, a bunch of trashy girls started IMing his screen name. And I am talking trashy. They sent pictures and we're talking half-naked 18-40 year olds with cottage cheese abs, yellow teeth, nasty girls. He apparently had been "cybering" with a ton of them the whole time we were dating, even before I'd left for New York, including one who was married and had a newborn son. And the worst part? I was the one he took to his church functions, on field trips, and around his family. (He was a 25-year-old 6th grade teacher at a private religious academy.) He admitted he had a problem, and I stood by him, but by June I was history. He told me I was "too nice," and by that August, he was MARRIED to some Internet girl he had impregnated. Do you know where he met her? A very common personal's site. And when he met her? While I was still the well-liked girlfriend he brought around his world. The truth is, guys like that will never change, and they will destroy a good relationship. If this is you or a friend of yours, get out NOW while you still can.
2007-01-15 21:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by babyshark2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's hedging his bets...if things seem a little shaky between you, he's got a contingency plan when you go sideways on him. But, that's just a guess.
2007-01-15 21:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, that's your first clue! I'd hit the road.
2007-01-15 21:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that he is out there for the same reason you think sex keep it movin
2007-01-15 21:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by legna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because he is a lying cheating scumbag? just an idea
2007-01-15 21:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be outa there in a flash!
2007-01-15 21:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is looking for something else if he tells you any different he is lying
2007-01-15 21:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by You_Asked 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋