lasting longer in bed?

Question

my woman and i want to make love but im scared and confused that i wont be able to please her i like sex and so does she but my fear is when we make love that im not going to be able to last long in bed i can go for a few minutes and bam then its over.. is there a solution to this kuz i hate it when i cant like go for a few hours and i can only go for a few minutes

Answer 1

You've certainly gotten a lot of ridiculous answers to this question. First of all, the idea of masturbating before sex is silly. If you can go twice then go twice with your partner. Even with a break in between, this is still better than masturbating. Just have sex and then hold her and cuddle until you are ready to go again. If you can't go twice then masturbating would be even sillier.

There are three suggestions:

You can try using an unlubricated condom and then using KY Jelly on the outside. Since unlubricated condoms don't slide on your penis they give you much less sensation. This can however be defeated if you are really aroused and producing a lot of pre-seminal fluid as this will also lubricate the inside of the condom.

The pleasure condom that was referred to above has benzocaine on it which numbs the penis somewhat. Durex is one of the brands that has this. Look for the Pleasure Pack. The Durex Performax condoms in the pack have the benzocaine. The numbing jell is the same. However, I have some additional advice because most places do not carry exotic jells and there may not be an adult shop near you. You can also use any oral benzocaine spray or jell. This is typically used for a sore throat or gum irritation. Any spray or jell that you can put into your mouth is safe to use on your penis and more importantly it is also safe to be inside a woman's vagina. The vaginal mucosa tissue is identical to the mucosa of the lips and mouth and this is why oral products are safe. A benzocaine ointment that you can put on your skin may not be safe if it says not to get it in your mouth or eyes. Also, skin ointments are usually petroleum jelly based and this will destroy a latex condom.

The third suggestion is using the transverse position. This was specifically taught by Masters and Johnson for men who couldn't last long enough. The transverse position is very similar to missionary but you straddle one of her legs instead of having both of yours between hers. If your penis points to one side (as many do when erect) you want to straddle whichever leg will allow your penis to point towards the center. It is much easier to delay climax using the transverse position.

If none of these seem to work, you can try doing circuits. Basically, you do oral on her and then stroke inside her a bit. You stop before you climax and go back to oral. Then you stroke inside her a bit. Then go back to oral. Repeat as needed.

Answer 2

Hey,

There is absolutely nothing to feel ashamed of. This should be related to most men. I will tell you how to last longer in bed. I have got 10 tips. You can have a read and they will surely help you

1) Learn to stop - If you feel yourself getting close to the point of no return STOP. Withdraw your penis and change what you were doing.

2) Breathing - Control your breathing through your nose with deep breaths. This will slow your whole excitement and put you back in control.

3) Wear a condom - A cheap and easy way to reduce sensitivity to your penis, thus helping you to last longer.

4) Stimulate your partner - Forget about yourself. Almost as much pleasure can be gained for both partners, if you concentrate on pleasuring your lover. Step back from your own penetration and work your magic with your hand or mouth to bring your partner to climax, or almost climax.

5) Circular motions - Stop overstimulating your penis head and alter your penetration technique to a circular motion so that all your penis gets stimulated.

6) Location Or Position - Your partner on top reduces your movement and excitement. This can greatly help the control you have and stimulation you receive.

7) Diversionary tactics - Take your mind away. Like hold the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth. This is a simple trick, effective and unknown to your lover.

8) Masturbate first - If you have been getting excited all night with your partner then the build up of anticipation is too much and will almost certainly result in premature ejaculation. Offset this by popping to the toilet and masturbating 10 minutes before you will be making your move for real.

9) Stay in control - This may encompass some other aspects of these 10 tips but if you have the mindset of being in control, instead of getting over excited, then you can withdraw at any point, change position, give oral stimulation and generally decide the outcome of the experience.

10) The 'behind the balls' muscle - Hold this muscle or press it with your hand when you feel the urge to come. A little practise with this technique will be an immediate relief.

There are also many easier and more effective ways to last longer in bed. I recently came across few more easier ways, which you can find here - http://LastLongerInBed.DrHealthExpert.com

With these in place you will be well on your way to making a more sensual lover, a more relaxed lover, and one who is able to last longer in bed and have sex for longer until you decide your partner is sexually satisfied.

Answer 3

Few hours? Trust me, no one engages in intercourse for several hours and enjoys the entire experience. Now, you have two methods you can employ. The first has already been discussed here. That would be to release a few hours ahead of time. The second is more tedious and time consuming, but pays off handsomely in the end. When you have about an hour of free time, practice ejaculating by bringing yourself to the point of climax, then stopping. Do that at least three times, then finish. After a week of that, you'll be more in tune with your own body, and able to effectively control your own orgasms.

Answer 4

Hi pal

The secret lies in self control. How to self control is the problem. Some answers above are good such as -, unloading the gun an hour before the critical hour, or even the use of numb lotions. You may as well right before climax, put an ice cube below the nuts for a few secs. For this you must have the nerve to stop intercourse and reach for the ice cube, and if it not too late maybe it will help.

Answer 5

Have you ever tried the numbing lotions...they do work; but be careful, as it can numb tongues too, which can happen if Mr. Sausage gets tasted during warm-up. Also, I liked iskander9's response, #2 answer about unloading the gun an hour earlier. As a back-up you can also put to use the old Master's & Johnson trick of pressure on the sausage shaft near the sausage tip for a few seconds...prior to building up near climax. hope that helps.

Answer 6

That's a normal fear that a lot of men feel. My suggestion is to include foreplay on both parts, you can even do this during the whole intercourse. You can also try controlling your biological responses to her in bed as well.

And just like working out at the gym you have to do some work outs in bed to train your body to delay the response.

Answer 7

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Premature ejaculation is not some gene you're born with, the result of your penis size or a part of your personality that you can never change.

Answer 8

Make sure u come during foreplay, & maybe even before u see her, this might make it less easier to become aroused or come as fast. Then while making love, think of sport or something that might distract u a little-that will make u less involved in what u doing &keep u going

Answer 9

Few hours!!! I think you are influenced by porn!!! Forget it.
If premature ejaculation is the problem, you have help. Consult a doctor. If erectile dysfunction is the issue, doctors and Viagra could help.
In any case, I hope you do a good foreplay to keep the partner aroused, so that while your erection lasts, she too gets a good effect of it!!!!

Answer 10

never go to bed with a loaded gun. try release some of it let say an hour before u actually plan to do it. This way, yr body takes longer time to create/produce it, hence you will be able to last longer than usual