Was seeing this guy. We chatted for at least month before he asked me out on a date. It all went great. Went out the following week and after that he wanted to see me everyday! I really liked him and him me. Then we slept together out of the blue. This was xmas eve. The next day he said he'd see me after xmas and he'd miss me. I got a few messages from him over the next few days then nothing...... Well after 2 weeks! he finally contacted me to say he doesnt want a relationship but just wants friends and not only that but he wants friends with 'extras' (if i wanted!) He said the morning after things just werent the same anymore. He said it was not my fault but his and he'd work through it. Since then I havent heard anything. I told him I was really hurt and he said he was sorry. He was supposed to come visit me several times to chat but always said he couldnt make it. Thing is I know for sure he really did want a relationship just before xmas? - and no, no other girl is involved here.
2007-01-15 20:53:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He got what he wanted from you and now he is done...
2007-01-15 21:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
could be he only wanted to use the world "relationship" to try and get in your pants..and after he got to it..he realize that he can just use you as his booty call or your friend with benefits.
it's up 2u what you want out of this relationship. if u don't mind just being his fling here and there...then just stick around (and keep your options open, too) but if u really want to be in a relationship (which is lots of commitment) then i would say..look elsewhere..cause he doesn't seem serious.
u may feel horrible for what he did--but atleast he told u the truth..rather than beat around the bush and lead u on...and maybe worse..go out with u, and then cheat on u later.
2007-01-15 21:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time dont be so easy to take someone at his word, people all over the country are meeting on line, some become horror stories..It is convenient and people are becoming addicted to it instead of living a normal life the live in the cyber world..count yourself lucky and try to not be snowed next time...
2007-01-15 21:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi looks as he just wanted fun with a nice friend as you can see he just wants to keep hes life open more friends and not tried down i think so really its learn for this that is if he wants just to be friends with you and others to them make sure you see him that way to because the last thing you want is to fall in love with a friend only and risk getting hurt,allways put you first look out for you best way of not being used in the long term.
2007-01-15 21:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you sleeep with him without a strong commitment?
guys dont like an easy lay. they want to have to work months and months before they conquer.the truth is he doesnt even want to conquer so he can finally settle with you.a guy would normally preserve his actual galfriend and sleep with a casual friend.
there was this guy i actually did like to a fault ut i refused to sleep with him. i broke up woth him because he wasnt as serios as i would have loved.that was four years ago.up until now,he calls me and still asks me out.i know why he is still interested, because i wouldnt allow myself be conquered just by any man.
several of the guys i dated till now still want to see me all because they cant believe i didnt fall for their charm.
galfriend, try having a no sex relationship,u will be shocked how much more fun you would have and how much longer it will last.
you wouldnt have to cry about being jilted.
trust me,it has worked for me.
dont go thinkin i didnt love these guys. i did, thats why i gave wanted to give them a reason to make our relationship work.
2007-01-15 21:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by beaume 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, he is probably being honest, and person to person, you weren't compatible, maybe he is a clutz about breaking it off with you, it happens. You should just let him make the decision, if you stay open he will make the choice he wants to make, the question is will that be what you want, but you will make that decision when the time comes.
2007-01-15 20:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Nickythewire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men lie and kind of stink
don't believe in such words "it's not your fault ,it's me ,I'm swine I need some time to think about it & etc... "
you know ,it sounds like he really used but not you - your body
now you have to be more attentive , stronger & clever , you don't need 3-weeks relationships , you're smart woman & only real men can conquer your heart. appreciate yourself.
it's time to be little bit ego ,it's time to move on.
and here's my advice - if someone 'll really love you , he won't hurry up and hurt you :)
2007-01-15 21:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes after guys get the goodies, they lose interest. It's not you, it's him. Find someone else if you're looking for a relationship. If you're okay with the casual, keep it going.
2007-01-15 20:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by ṡ๓υгƒєtt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he only wants you for SEX. nothing else. that's why he wants you to be his friend with 'extras' he just said those other things to you so you won't get too angry with him. and you might consider being his friend with 'extras'
2007-01-15 21:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The creep used you. There are so many guys like that. I'm sorry, sweetie.
2007-01-15 21:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Curious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋