i don't believe in god and my daughter is asking me questions?

Question

i dont believe in god and now my 9 year old daughter is asking me question about him.
What should i say to her?

Answer 1

I have a daughter who has just turned 10 and I also don't believe in god, even though I grew up within a very devout Christian environment. I would suggest that you answer by letting her know what "some" people believe. That way you are not commiting to anything or denying anything. If she asks you what you believe, then be honest. My resentment with my childhood and youth, now that I am grown up, is that someone elses beliefs where pushed on to me. I think that would be relevant whether it was pro or anti Christian. If she's asking about God then perhaps her friends talk about the concept or maybe check out the curriculum at school. Some schools have scripture once a week. At least they do here in the land of Oz. I had to write a note to keep my daughter from these classes. The encouraging thing is that more than half the school does the same thing!
Please keep me posted. Godd question, by the way!

Answer 2

Try telling her what you belive first...that is a good start. Then take her to different churches, or let her go with friends, and see what she likes. At 9 she is starting to think for herself. I think it is sad to see kids have religion crammed down their throats at such a young age, it is called brainwashing. What happens is they grow up and never question why they have all of these guilt issues, believe that the bible is absolutely 100% true and are convinced that the earth is only 6000 years old just because pastor bob told them so. These issues are all up for debate as most people who go to college have found out. Give your daughter a fare stake at growing up in the age of reason and deciding for herself. If religion works for her, then great, if it doesnt then I guess she is a lot like you...is that so bad?

Answer 3

At nine yo, you can tell her the truth.
The truth is that, all through time, mankind has needed a superior being to protect him and the earliest men who were aware of their surroundings worshipped that which was most important to them, the sun.
Thereafter, man has inevitably created a god of some sort, even in the most primitive of peoples.
We have dispensed with the early gods - Odin and Thor from Scandinavia, Zeus and the myriad of others from Ancient Greece, Ra (The Sun God) from Ancient Egypt and so on but some of us are still hanging on to the concept of there being a supernatural entity lurking everywhere at the same time and, very conveniently, is invisible.
Reoigion does give comfort to so many people and, if they want to believe in a sky-fairy that's their business but when they believe so vehemently that their god wishes them to murder and destroy in the name of that god, that's when it becomes unacceptable.
At nine yo, she should be given the whole truth and allowed to make up her own mind. You are being a responsible parent by even considering what action to take but in the interest of your daughter, I would guide her along the path to reality.
There is no such thing as god and you know it. Take away any confusion from your child's mind and tell the truth.

Answer 4

I'm an atheist, so i feel ya. What i would do, is answer her questions, to the best that you can, tell her about other religions and when the time comes, she will decided on what path she wants to follow. That's the best way.. instead of pushing the bible like so many people are asking you to do. let her know there are other choices and that she has all the time she needs to decided which way she wants her life to be.

Answer 5

tell he about a garden god made ,that people got drunk in and trashed that they were evicted ,that god is everywhere ,and he loves you very much but you rekin hes like santa ie not real
for whatever reasons you may have
be honest with her but let her have an all powerfull loving protective god just as you let her have santa
explain to her that god loves you both but that you never believed but that god loves us even if we dont ,that we do good to others not so much for them but for god
you told her about santa ,let her know people saying god judges people is wrong god loves us ,all of us that when all men and woman hate us god allways will love all of us.
it is important children know no matter what god loves them all they need to do is ask and god comes
you cant allways be there but god can and is
you made a choice ,make sure she has a choice
my daughter says she dosnt believe in god but i told /tell her it dosnt matter god loves her
we can worry because little children can and have passed over ,i wanted the concept to be in her knowing just in case ,
kids need to know so they have knowledge of truth and possabilities from you
thier god
dont give her a wrathfilled and judgmental god because its not true
god is love ,gods light gives life ,god is life ,if you tell her fairy takles at least tell her of god
they can choose given honest facts ,if you dont know the facts tell her we will find out and go to a few churches ,temples or whatever your family belief is ,its important that the same faith is followed by the family that all end up in the same after being place.
a family together can survive anything ,we are all gods children

Answer 6

i would leave her the option of learning about other faiths. I wouldn't tell her that your belief is100%atheist as that could keep her from ever exploring an avenue of faith that could be helpful or a good"fit" for her where it wasn't for you. You can tell her life is a continuous learning experience, and what you have learned may not be the same for her, and what you "believe" now is not a guarantee of what you may believe later in you life, thus giving her the option of not following directly your beliefs w/o question or exploration.

Answer 7

Please read my words carefully:
If you see footmark in the sand, you'll say that someone passed from here...
If you see a piece of dog sh*t on the ground, you'll say that a dog passed from here...
So what about the enormous universe, the sky, stars, planets, earth and all the beauty in it, doesn't it lead to that someone made it?!!!

Some people say that everything is created by itself after the big-bang... I won't ask you about what caused the big-bang, but I'll ask you a simple question:
If you take all the letters of the alphabet, multiples of them, and you threw them randomly on the floor. Do you expect (by a chance of one in infinity) to get a poem like shakespear's??!!

Can't you see how organized our universe is, the planets, the eco-system on earth, look even in your own body... Can you control your heart-beat? Can you control your breath while you're sleeping? Who stopped your eye-lashes from growing after reaching a certain length? Who told the baby turtles to move towards the sea and not to the earth after they come out of their eggs? Who taught the bird how to make nests?

My friend, think with your heart and brain. If you're still lost, think about the following:

Do you know how to play safe?
Your point:
If there's no God and you do all what you want in life, then nothing will happen to you after life. But if there was God and you were mistaken, then you'll blame yourself FOREVER...

Believer's point:
If there's God and I followed His commands in life, then I'll be in Heaven after life FOREVER. But if there was no God and we're mistaken, then nothing bad will happen to us after life...

Now you know how to play-safe, in case you're not convinced?

Answer 8

My friend, the very reason that your 9 year old daughter is asking you about a God you do not believe in, should tell you something.

"Out of the mouths of babes"...

In the Bible, it says that if the people did not rejoice at the coming of Jesus into Jerusalem, the ground would cry out in rejoicing!

We are all created wtih a spirit to worship God. That is why your daughter is asking questions about Him - because He is truth.

Do this: ask God what to tell her (what harm can it do?)

Answer 9

Refer her to the Jefferson Bible. It states the facts of Jesus in the NT but cuts out the miracles and fantasy stuff.

Answer 10

Tell her the truth about your disbelief; however, give her the freedom to make up her own mind about the matter. If she asks about a specific belief system that you don't feel conversant about, you can help her research it. Tell her that there are many different types of belief in the world, including non-belief.