well i really love this man and we are both atrracted to each other.........i want to bed with him......but i'm not yet ready.......i'm still a virgin.........and i know it will hurt me.......my virginity was so important to me that i want it to give to my future husband.........and yet i want to give it now with my boyfriend..........should i stiill give importance to my virginity?...........is it ok to haVE srx with the man you love even though your not yet married?......is it bad to do that?.......what shall i do?
2007-01-15 20:30:32 · 25 answers · asked by gracielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if you ask me, first of all it is really bad to have a sex relation without marriage and second you loose your virginity to person you only like/love him and you are not sure whether he will be your life partner or not.
that really makes a sense if you are virgin and you give it to your husband not just your boyfriend and later on you are separeted.
Think positive and if you are really sure that he can be your life partner then you know what to do......
2007-01-15 20:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Born_yesterday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are confused and consulting the public. definately and firmly I say no. NO WAY. Not ready.
If that is your belief and your sentiment then wait. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone is a bit different.
Don't be saddened by this. When the time comes, it will be you who choses this. This is yours to give. Dont set yourself up to scapegoat something you already have a belief in to somebody else. Dont go give it away until you are totally sure of the person and the time. Dont punk yourself out or set yourself up for failure.
At least wait for a proposal from the guy. See a plan for the future.
Expand your capacity for intimacy before expanding on your sexuality.
This is for sure the real deal....every man you will ever meet or have dating or courting with will be ready for you. The decision is truly yours and you are never to be bullied into this.
2007-01-15 20:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by jorluke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I love your sincereity. Categorically, i would love to encourage you to stick to your choice not ot bed with him. Yes you may love him but he is not your husband. Suppossing some one was keeping himself for you and had to give in to another girl before you. sex is made for marriage and is best that way. You have kept on till now. Do not bow out bow. there is a word in some circles that says that True love waits. If he love you he will wait. If he loves you enough, he will marry you. Then you both would not have lost anything. Sex is not like taking a bottle of coke. It is good you are holding it in honour. pray that your future husband would be doing that now too.
2007-01-15 20:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by PATRICK A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think for 5 mins. If you feel your virginity is still important and you have a doubt you will feel guilty later for losing your virginity, dont do it.
Never regret for what you do in life. Anything it may be. May it be to cheat someone though you dint want to do that. Bcoz later you start repenting and regreting for what you have done.
Its like a chain reaction in once life........You cant stop yourself regreting for your actions later in your life once you do whats against your belief.
So, never go against your consciousness.
Or else you will lose your self respect nad have a bad time later.
Do what you believe, dont become an underdog for your physical wants.
Good luck.
2007-01-15 20:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should give it a little more thought.i regret losing my virginity.i wish sometimes that i still was.it all should go into what u think about it.how long u have been together,how much he really does care about you,and everything else.i was in love with the person i lost mine too and it didnt work out with us.and yes i do still love him cause he ment a lot to me but u have to realize that sex changes everything.i didnt believe it when ppl told me but its true.we started argueing all the time and then he left me for someone else just when it was starting to get better.im not telling u not to do it,but im not telling u to go for it either.im saying to think about it and make up ur mind on it.think about if ur really ready or not.its all up to u.hope everything works out.
2007-01-15 20:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl_12589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you in return, why doesn't he ask you to marry him? Don't give yourself away, the feeling will pass and you will be happy with yourself. Virginity is so rare these days, of course it is important, you won't be sorry, and think of the man you do one day marry, he will appreciate you forever. Give it deep thought...
2007-01-15 20:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex should come naturally. if you're still unsure about it..then maybe you're not ready (and will regret it).
when it's the right moment..u won't even think if it is or not...because it feels so right..that it comes naturally.
but if you're still young in middle school-high school..then just be prepared for the consequences of the guy ditching you after they got to "tap that" cause thats what they are all about at that age. to just get in your pants, and then dump you, and spread rumors about u that they "had u". and u will have a bad reputation.
most guys are jerks!!!
2007-01-15 20:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is very important,reserve it for your future husband!God commanded that marital bed must be kept pure and true love is pure.So if you really love him show it by your being faithful to him.And men once they have sex with you already,they will respect you less and eventually leave you!
2007-01-15 20:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by ranya j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you r young, let me tell u this most likely wont be your husband try not to get into situations where sex could happen nothing wrong with making out, but there is already enough corrupted young girls dont be the next
no matter what he tells you, he will be the best person possible to conquer this, you are harder than someone who isnt a vigin. Save it!!
2007-01-15 20:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not do anything you will regret later. If not sure, dont do it.
Get to know the person well and that he can be trusted should any thing happen.
It is not necessary that you must wait for the Mr Right.
Good Luck
2007-01-15 20:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋