been 2gether 4 2 & 1/2 years & we have 2 of the most beautiful kids in the world. We were talking about something my little cousin said. And well I have bad memory and he asked me who was this guy I was talking 2 at at the park. & i told him it was my gay friend named kevin which is the truth. He sent me an e-mail saying please get out of his life & go back where i was, etc... I still want us 2 b 2gether because I still love him very much & we have kids together & i want us 2 b a family 4 our kids. I have lied to him & everything before, & I have cheated on him only once, & he knows about it. I haven't done anything since then. I have been faithful, I have done anything that he has asked me. He knows there is nothing in the world that I wouldn't do for him. I don't want to lose him. I can't imagine my life without him & I can't imagine him with anyone else,I can't imagine him telling another female that he loved her,I can't imagine him having kids with someone else! what should i do?
2007-01-15 20:09:41 · 5 answers · asked by starlight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My little cousin told him that I was talking to someone at the park which was my gay friend Kevin. I didn't want to tell him because I really didn't feel like arguing or anything! Sometimes I don't understand I'm not perfect everybody makes mistakes I've done everything I could think of. And he always brings me cheating on him up almost all the time when we are in an argument. He he a Perfect Guy every female would want a guy like him if they met him. He is a great father and best friend we always joke and every thing. I just really want everything to be o.k. like it was at first. Sometimes I don't think that I'm enough for him because he looks at girls on the internet and on his myspace page everything and I don't like that. But I can't change him or what he does. Please no smart comments or anything. Just please put us in your prayers even if you don't know me! Thanks
2007-01-15 20:26:22 · update #1
I've read the comments that were left for me and I just wanted to say "Thanks" to the ones who replied to my question.
2007-01-15 22:09:46 · update #2
OK, you're problem is that you've cheated on him once before and you have yet to regain his trust. He thinks you are lying to him for that very reason.
The worst thing you can do is get defensive. It might take him a few days to calm down, but he eventually will. Reality will set back in with the daily routine involving the kids. There will be plenty of opportunity to sit down and talk. Don't rush one and be as sincere as you can when it happens. He needs to know HE has your full attention for as long as he wants it, and not some gay guy in the park!
That guy might have been a good friend, but you need to establish good communication in YOUR relationship first before you have any kind of friendship with the other sex (regardless of their orientation). Your boyfriend/fiance/husband is probably more jealous of the attention and communication than anything else. It doesn't have to be about sex.
Sometimes trying to empathize and show that you are trying to see things from his perspective is the best way to get back on the same page with each other. Wish you the best...!
2007-01-15 20:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohhh dont imagine stuff like that...that's too painful to think about!
that's so sad. look, try to concentrate on your kids and continue to be kind to him....they are his babies with you. he isnt going far
hopefully, in time and maybe if he is willing to keep trying....there was a reason you two met and you have two little reasons to remain together. i sure hope everything works out dear. take a deep breath. if youre doing all the right things and on a good road...it will be his great loss. he has to be open to your good actions and put his pride aside if he wants to make another go of it...its really not something you can make a person do.. good luck
2007-01-16 04:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to contact you and just get on with your job and life.You know what they say "worrying never accomplishes a thig except stress"You sound like you don`t need any stress in your life so let him go for now.
2007-01-16 04:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand what happened... He got mad at you for talking to a gay friend at a park? Did he believe you were lying to him or something?
2007-01-16 04:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dangermouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is only over reacting and probably jealous. pray and talk things over wit him, i am sure that will help.
2007-01-16 04:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by joddie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋