After not talking for about a year me and my ex became friends again in august, we'd both had recent bad breakups, and for some reason got along really well. I'm not sure how i feel about it now though, we talk everyday and hang out almost every day, it's practically like having a girlfriend(but without certain benefits) I'd like to try dating again but don't really know how to bring up the subject because i don't want it to ruin things if she feels different. Any suggestions? How could i try to tell if she feels the same way or wants to remain just friends?
2007-01-15 19:59:55 · 12 answers · asked by JOHN R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although Stephanie has a point, it can work both ways. You might end up missing the opportunity if she feels the same way you do, and decides to let YOU make the first move.
It's a tough situation to be in, but before you decide anything, take a step back and reconsider how you feel. Are you in this situation again out of convenience? Realize that committment is a different type of buzz than dating, and you might be feeling the way you do now because it's a decision that hasn't been made yet. Once you commit again, is there any real chance that the two of you have changed enough to make it work this time?
If you really still care for her, then you should be prepared to make it work this time. You owe her that much if you decide to make a move.
2007-01-15 20:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask her! Tell her your into her and ask if she wants to just be friends or what. You will never know unless you ask. There are only 2 possible outcomes. 1.She likes you too -or- 2. she just wants to be your friend. the way I see it you have nothing to lose. if she says no your right where you started. I'm a girl and based on my personal experience she would not be with you everyday unless she secretly wanted to be your girlfriend. I bet she feels the exact same way you do and is also too SCARED to say so. If not things will not be ruined if anything she will be flattered
P.S. if you want to go the chicken-**** route then watch her body language.
2007-01-15 20:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by kristieisrad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so heres the question you should ask yourself "is she really worth my time again?". Well heres some advice if she iz, sit down with her and tell her how you feel, bcuz chances are she feels the same way or else you most likely wouldnt be spending so much time together. Tell her that you feel you two should give the relationship another shot, but in small doses. Ask her about starting off just "dating". You know the whole being "together" thing, but not having the "girlfriend, boyfriend" lable. then after a week or two of that, if everything iz working out alright, i say ask her back out, but in thiz situation, i feel you should just follow your heart man. But alwayz keep in mind, you two are ex's for a reason correct?
2007-01-15 20:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.XXX 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it all depends on your chemistry together. Just follow your emotions, try flirting with her a little bit and see how she responds. If you feel like the moment is right, hold her hand or put your arm around her shoulder and see if she feels comfortable with it. You can even bring the subject up indirectly like "remeber when last year when we were together and we wnt to that one place blah blah". Good luck!
2007-01-15 20:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by beautylover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lf you had dated her for a year in the past,you should already know how she is,l mean her feelings and tastes and other things right?,,,lf you are afraid ,l suggest you to take some time before you start doing something more....little by little you will get there.believe me.
2007-01-15 20:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is kinda a wierd way to do it, you could ask one of your GUY friends(cause if it's a girl friend, then that prolly won't work) To ask one of her GIRL friends (cause if it's a guy then you never know how they might feel about her) to ask her. and see what she says. Plus they could never technically pin it on you as long as it's a guy friend you trust. Or you could do it the plain and simple way and just ask her. See if she's ever thought about it. if you guys are really good friends now it ahouldn't change anything.
2007-01-15 20:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tizmo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just bring it up to her. Ask her what her thoughts on it are. Try not to be to serious. But do it before she finds another man
2007-01-15 20:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by NEED HELP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys should make the first move...
maybe u should not be too straight forward...
try to drop a few hints and analyse her respond :)
2007-01-15 20:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by Yihyan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would remian friends and let her make the first move that way you dont risk the rejection that comes from her not feeling the same way.
2007-01-15 20:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie o 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ask a simple question with a sincere heart.if what ever she answered respect it.
2007-01-15 20:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋