My new bf calls me everyday so we can talk. Last night when he called me, he was with his friend. So, I told him he should spend time with her, instead of calling me (no jealousy or anything). He really got offended and hung up on me.
In my opinion, when he is spending time with his friends or family, that is the time for them. I think he should've called me when he was available to me. I don't see why he got offended. Anybody got an idea?
2007-01-15 19:45:56 · 29 answers · asked by Sweetie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically he is in love with you and felt it bad that you sounded so matter of fact by stating that he needs to spend time with his friend. He probably felt that he took out time for you to speak and you simply banged out. I think it is the way you spoke which hurt him. Just talk to him everything will be alright. Explain him the situation.
2007-01-15 19:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He calls you everyday to talk. I take it when he has called on previous nights, you have talked to him. He called you last night to talk, but he had another girl, his friend, with him. THIS TIME, instead of respecting that this was the time he had set aside to talk to you, you told him how he should spend that time....with HER (and you add that you were not jealous or anything). Perhaps you may have been more jealous (a perfectly normal reaction to a bf who's out with another woman) than you thought. You were telling him how he should be spending his time based on how you like to spend your time. That's not always fair. Instead, you should have ASKED him if he would rather call you later when he was alone instead of projecting your "call etiquette" onto him.
2007-01-16 04:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by blabla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't, but at the same time you owe a talk with him about it the next chance you get. Communication is key to a solid relationship. As long as he knows what you meant, things should be fine.
Don't apologize, however. You did nothing wrong. It just sounds like you're still at that age where everything's dramatic. That's typical in the junior high and high school years...
2007-01-16 03:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying what you mean is a good thing...but did it sound like you meant it that way?
I agree with you 100%...if he wants to talk to you..then make the time for YOU so that you two can talk privately and without interruptions from friends,family,etc...
Maybe he just does not know you well enough and is not use to women saying something like that..so he ASSUMES that you were being sarcastic. Make sure he understands who you are..so he knows how to take you.
2007-01-16 03:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by wendylpn123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong, you were just being nice and thoughtful. But maybe he just wanted to show you that he did care about you enough to stop his life for you. Call him and explain what you ment. And also ignore all the other people that keep saying he's immature. Cause if he was i don't think you be with him.
2007-01-16 04:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Tizmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably assumed you were saying "Don't call me when you hanging out with another girl! Spend time with her not me." I can see how he can misunderstand what you were saying. You women are complicated and men try and read into what you say and sometimes we are wrong (90%). Give the guy a break.
2007-01-16 03:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by tattoomeats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't understand that you were thinking he should be spending quality time with friends and family - he probably thought that you were telling him off for calling you all the time
2007-01-16 03:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to be polite when I say this...Don't be coy. no woman feels nothing when her boyfriend is hanging out with another girl....unless she feels nothing for him. You felt a little jealously or something if you have feelings for him. And he probably hung up on you because you sounded cold on the phone about him being with another chick. Maybe he called you to let you know he was out with another girl to test you to see if you care, because he feels you haven't been showing much effection to him to prove it.
Just a thought, I may be wrong.
2007-01-16 03:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , as he is your New bf , so u r still knowing each other, so it is better to talk to him and try to clarify yr ideas about his quality time and his friends rights and so on.... but u know something , i will be glad if that's happen to me , i mean if my bf calls me even when his friend is around because that means that i am in his thoughts all the time , so just discuss it and all will be fine
2007-01-16 04:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by xoxo m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf needs to grow uo, he sounds like a child. OR maybe he thought you were freaking out on him. Call him up , send him an email and let him know what you really ment
2007-01-16 03:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋