This guy I like said he fancies me but doesnt have feelings for me. Then he asks me to go up North with him and his mates, they are going somewhere for the weekend. I say im not sure as its my mums 50th and then he says "you see it wouldnt work, we live too far away, you have your freinds and family, I have mine we would never have time for anything else". Now im sorry if im being dumb but as far as im concerned this is a mixed signal, do you agree? The invite completely came out of knowhere. Surely all he needed to say was "ok not to worry if you cant make it"??MEN!!!!!!!!
2007-01-15 19:32:59 · 15 answers · asked by Kyra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also he has just come out of a long term relationship - we have known each other as friends for almost 2 years, not very well as we dont live near each other.
2007-01-15 19:35:07 · update #1
I'm sorry to say but he's only after one thing, I've seen some of my mates pull this tactic, if it's what you want then fine but I wouldn't expect anything more to come of it. By inviting you with his mates it seems like he wants to show off about having a girl with him too. His reaction was because of your answer, it wasn't an immediate "yes" so he got a bit defensive. I think for your sake you would be better off going to your mums do and seeing if anything develops afterwards
2007-01-15 20:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not mixed messages. He's playing games. If the invite came out of nowhere, that was rude of him to think you would drop everything in your life to go see him for whatever reason. He knew that more than likely, you wouldn't be able to go. He made a valid point. You both have your own lives. It's time for you to live yours and not obsess over him.
2007-01-16 03:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he says he fancies you, he is really saying that he'd like to be intimate with you,when he says but he hasnt got feelings for you what he really means is "but without any committment".He is looking for the bit of the long term relationship which he misses the most(sex).Let him find it elsewhre!
2007-01-21 09:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like game playing on his part already.. drop it before it even starts.. seems like you're pretty wise anyway for questioning it rather than doing what he wants. Enjoy your mums 50th! Family is way more important than a silly game playing boy.. good luck
2007-01-16 03:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by peachesandcream 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably just wants his leg over and to prove to himself that he can still get a girl. Emotional blackmail too. Tekk him to F off and find a bloke nearer to where you stay. Oh and you cant miss your mums 50th for some tosser bloke! Forget him!
2007-01-22 18:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is too short as to torture our head with questions like : what does he mean by this , what signals does he send .... cause as soon as we are starting to do so means that something isnt right
i am sure u know so !
maybe its better to let it be just friends as it was and find someone which has feelings for u and not just fancies u !
2007-01-16 04:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by athina68 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yess, he is sending mixed signals. but u need to ask yourself does he really care?-cause if he knows about your mums 50th, y is isnt he showing signs of understanding?
2007-01-16 03:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really like this guy? yes? well if they go somewhere for the weekend, this is an obvious call-out for sex. i'm sorry, but you shouldn't be this desperate to consider that. don't let him play games with you! just say yes or no and forget about it!
2007-01-16 03:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by lulzmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel guilty about saying no to this guy he is trying to lay the blame on you for his male pigheadness, if he liked you and valued you as a person he would try harder to want a relationship with you, ignore him in future and move on like most men he probably only you away for one thing.... sex.. find someone better than that you deserve it
2007-01-22 16:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by SARA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should appreciate the fact that you want to be with your mum for a very significant day of her life.in fact if he really does care he wouldnt make you feel guilty for being with your family.i dont think he is worth the sweat.he can go on out with his friends without you.you will be just fine without him.
2007-01-16 03:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by beaume 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋