So my aunt just died from two types of cancer, and a couple months ago my uncle was just murdered, so it kinda makes it worse. I feel like a horriable person because i'm not going to her funeral tomorrow. Instead i'm going to school and making up alot of thing's that i've missed. Does that make me a bad persn? Also, the second question has to deal with the guy i've mentioned before. I just talked to him recently, and it turn's out that his girlfriend is 6 month's pregnant, and i'm invited to his baby shower. I proly haven't seen him in like 6 month's as well. I'm excited that he's habing a baby girl (even though he's only 16), and i really want to go. But at the same time, i'm also afraid to go because i'm scared of falling back in "love" i guess you'd say. And i feel terable because we were really good friends until i screwed everythingup, though i did apologize, and own up to what i did. It's still there and i'm afraid that he hasn't totaly forgiven me. what do i do?
2007-01-15 19:08:11 · 6 answers · asked by Tizmo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, for everyone's information, were weren't ever boyfriend and girlfriend. So can you stop saying ex-byfriend and all that?
2007-01-15 19:26:31 · update #1
i`m confused!!!
you are too strong !!! i cant handle that
2007-01-15 19:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the first one: you have to know your priorities. It doesn't make you a bad person, but you do need to think about how you're handling the grief, and how you participate with your family in their grief. I would think not going to the funeral is a bad idea, even if you sacrifice school stuff.
As for the other question: understand that he's not having a baby, his girlfriend is. So it's really her baby shower, because she the one who has to give birth to the tyke. Most girls would not want their boyfriend's ex-girlfriend at their baby shower, because it would make her feel threatened. Especially if there are still feelings between the two. And don't worry about him forgiving you, because he wouldn't invite you to the shower if he hadn't.
On second thought, if he's pretentious enough to think that he is having his own baby shower... run away.
2007-01-15 19:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are not attending your aunt's funeral because you have lot to make up in the school you have missed. Alright a decision taken by you by weighing the pros and cons. Now you intend to visit your ex-bf place because of the baby shower. I find no logic in your visiting your ex-bf place. Both the issues are two extreme ends of life. It is difficult for a person so pressed up with two untimely deaths to enjoy a ceremony like 'baby shower'.
Think over it.
2007-01-15 19:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to miss the funeral, I think you need to make sure you have the proper closure before her funeral... for yourself
As for the Boyfriend - stay away - you have alot of emotions going on because of the loss in your family - the questions & confusion you are feeling has alot to do with it... give yourself some time to heal - I'll bet you will feel different about him then too.
2007-01-15 19:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be prepare to remind yourself that you made a decision about the funeral and are willing to live with it. Then if you are afraid of your feelings then don't go. If you are afraid of not being forgiving then decide to go or not and if you do...ask your ex if he has forgiven you or not. Either learn to live with it or don't go or ask. That appears to be your only option.
2007-01-15 19:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going to a funeral is a personal decision..its OK if you decide not to....skip the baby shower ...sounds to complicated and you are probably emotionally exhausted from the death of your Aunt and Uncle...being this vulnerable will not be the greatest think around this boy-friend .
2007-01-15 19:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Olive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋