I have a daughter who is 3 and I only talk to her every other day
2007-01-15 18:16:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yeah, I think it is normal. Chalk it up to all families being different. As long as the ex isn't having extended conversations with her, I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-01-15 18:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by sher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is more than ok as long as the EX is calling his son and not the sons Mom..A father/Son relationship will always be encouraged before being discouraged as long as he is not being a bad infuance on the child..The EX will either soon realize that the relationship between him and his sons Mom is over and he already may realize that and is genuine in wanting to make sure he remains a part of his sons life..The questions that work well in situations such as this are:..When he calls does the son appear to be enjoying talking to his Dad on the phone?..Is the Dad pressuring the Mom in any way & if so in what reference..?..And have both parents been able to move on with their personal relationships without each of the parents fulltime obligation to their child be interupted to an extreme?..Now onec these answers are given that should let you know exactly what the Dads intentions really are..Honestly there are alot of good Dads out there and although they were unable to maintain a relationship with the childs Mom while living together,that does not make him a Bad Dad..So back off Dad unless there are warning signs that say otherwise..Tell the family that I send my prayers & warmest thoughts that they are continuing making their child first priority...
2007-01-16 02:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Vickie Renee 1963 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if he wants to make sure he remains a part of his child's day, and he knows that if he calls a few times a day that will help accomplish that. I think its normal, and I think he is wise.
People don't like to believe that they become more distant from their children by not living with them, but the reality is it is easy for children and parents to be more distant when they don't live together and aren't part of one another's day.
Of course, there's a chance this "involved" father could become a problem if he decides he wants to further exercise his parental rights and maybe get custody of his child. I think its normal that he doesn't want to fade into the background in his child's life, but being a normal parent can sometimes mean being a problem parent to the ex.
2007-01-16 03:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is lucky to have a dad that wants to keep a relationship with him. I would worry if he didn't. Of course I don't know this guy and have no reason to question his intentions. And you should talk to your daughter more often, if you can. Biological parents should have a bond with their children and miss them enough to call every day or even a couple times a day if they can't be with them. I know my husband would be miserable if he didn't see or talk to our son at least every day. He takes trips out of town and always wants to talk to our son when he calls me.
2007-01-16 05:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's dad, that seems to be what's normal for him. Each ex releationship is different and I don't think you can just put a normal label on anything. If this is what he's doing, good for him, let it continue. He's dad and should have as much contact with his son as he wishes as long as he's not causing any harm.
2007-01-16 08:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there should be a limit to ex's interactions even with children. Once a day is fine, four times is extremely to much. Eventually that will mess with your relationship you dont want your gf talking to a guy she slept with and created a child with 4 times a day. Anyway I wish you all the luck.
2007-01-16 02:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
guy if i was the father, id be living under your mailbox in a cardboard box until a house in the neighborhood opened up. just dont feel threatened. if you react on this, its just a green eyed monster and your scared.and just for clarification, every other day is pretty darn good, surprise her with an extra visit if you can. she's not a chore, she's your claim to fame.peace bro from a former weekly then bi weekly dad after being full time. now im full time dad/mom. and its no joke, thank your mom.
2007-01-16 02:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by l8ntpianist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because YOU do something doesn't mean that every man does it. It is OBVISOUSLY normal for your girlfriend's ex and his son to keep in contact during the day. Maybe you're worried that YOU'RE not normal? If you weren't it wouldn't bother you that he calls so often.
2007-01-16 02:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would consider them very lucky. there are times when I just dial the phone to get my 4 year old off my back for a bit.
2007-01-19 18:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't see a problem with it. I think it shows concern for the child and a desire to parent the boy by staying in touch like he does. i would be greatful to have an ex that involved with the children
2007-01-16 02:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋