I am in my second year of college and well anyway I was at this party and there were these three guys standing near me and I heard them tallking about me and saying my name and then I heard one guy say "dude, don't even bother she is such a prude" and then they left and went to another room. And its not just them I have heard other guys say this about me as well, even one of my ex-boyfriends?!
So my questions are:
-Why do so many guys think I am such a prude ?
-Am I really a prude ?
Other Details:
-I am 19
-I am a virgin
-I am waiting till marriage to have sex and I wear my promise ring with pride
-I don't kiss until at least the third date
-I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs (I never have and never will)
-I never curse (It just sounds dirty)
-I love to travel and try new things (I am very outgoing)
2007-01-15 18:15:08 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love having fun and I do not dress like a nun, but I think their are limits to how much fun someone can have.
2007-01-15 18:24:58 · update #1
you are not a prude.definitely not. i admire you your conviction. not all women nowadays are like you. if only more women are like you, there will be less single mothers in the world. men call you prude because they know they can never take advantage of you, meaning take you to bed and have sex with them. be proud of what you are, lady! when the right man comes, he's gonna be the happiest and proudest man alive. let me tell you- when it comes to marrying, men still choose to marry virgin women. they still prefer to be the one and only man in their wife's life.so hold on,girl.wait for the right man. choose well.
2007-01-15 18:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
A prude would actually be someone who doesn't do any of the stuff you say you don't do but who would act indignant towards people who do decide to do those things so, I wouldn't say you're a prude. Who cares if someone thinks you're a prude! Morals are hard to come by these days and you're actually not compromising yours so, be proud of that. That does take alot of pride and self respect and in this day and age, it's hard not to give into temptation. You and only you have to live with the choices you make so if you're not comfortable doing certain things, don't let what people say or think change that.
2007-01-15 18:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
When I was in college, that was all the others guys ever talked about. Although I thought about such things, I am not stupid enough to think that by being a rude prick would get me laid.
When many men are in their teens, they are all balls and no brains. They think that this is the time in their life when women should be throwing themselves at them. They will only focus on women that WILL do IT and say rude things about those that WON'T do IT.
It may be hard, but just ignore them. If they get too rude, you can just say that the reason you are prudish to them is because you don't make love to broken pencils. It may be a little cruel, but it usually worked for my friend.
2007-01-15 18:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok, lets single out the ones that make you a prude.
-I am a virgin (not a prude, might be religious, or etc)
-I am waiting till marriage to have sex and I wear my promise ring with pride (might be a little weird, that's one strike)
-I don't kiss until at least the third date (this one is the second strike, why not the first or second, or the 5th? Sounds pretty arbitrary, plus a kiss goodbye is expected nowadays)
-I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs (I never have and never will) (again might be religious, parental or something, not everyone's cup of tea, so ill let this one slide since I dont smoke or do drugs)
-I never curse (It just sounds dirty) (this is third strike, not even when angry?)
So I guess you're a prude. Three strikes.
2007-01-15 18:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Julio Cesar C 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You are a smart woman who has the self-confidence to say no to destructive behaviors. Continue to show pride in these things and these same guys may eat their words ten years from now. I never liked going to parties because I always thought they were kind of boring and the people there were not very open minded. Try taking an art class or taking up a hobby to meet people. That is what I like to do because I do not like to be around people who drink or party too much.
2007-01-15 18:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't let some hornball group of guys make you question yourself. Any guy who calls you a prude isn't even worth your time and is only pissed off because you're not giving him the time of day (which he wouldn't deserve anyway if he lowered himself by calling you that). You're not a prude, you just know what you want, and it's not these horny boys that keep trying to get your attention. Keep your head up, eyes forward, and ignore the losers until the hero comes along.
2007-01-15 18:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you're a prude. Personally, I believe in "everything in moderation". I've drank, I've smoked, I've done drugs, I've had sex, I curse when I feel it's appropriate, and I've kissed on the first date. I feel all of these experiences have made me a richer person, and when I look back I can say "hey, I've done that" with pride. I shake my head when I see someone like you with a "never have never will" attitude, and I think "damn, she's missing out".
BUT! Screw what I think. Screw what they think. Remember, you are #1, and your values are #1. If you are saving yourself for marriage, more power to you. If you believe in keeping your body 100% clean, cool. Neither I, nor anyone else, is in a position to judge you, because we are not YOU. Hold up your head with pride. I disagree with you on a lot of your priorities, but hey, that's respect. Who am I to say what you should or shouldn't be?
2007-01-15 18:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by John C 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are doing what you think is right so how does it matter if three guys don't think the same way.
It is never wrong to have principles and stand by them, especially when doing so hurts no one else.
If you are a prude it is not so bad. There are many worse things you could be.
2007-01-15 19:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by John B 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
To guys like that, prude = won't put out.
So on that scale, yes, you're a prude. Wear your title with pride. Any guy that has a problem with that isn't the guy for you.
He was telling the guy not to bother because he wasn't going to get lucky with you. Good advice, since it's true. Obviously that was all that guy needed to hear.
2007-01-15 18:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by EQ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you sound a lot like me. Please don't ever be embarrassed about being virtuous. Those guys are idiots and they're obviously not looking for the right thing in a woman anyway. Someday you'll find the right guy and he will love you BECAUSE of all those things you've listed, not in spite of them. Never lower your standards just because some dumb guys are being jerks. Stay true to who you are and that amazing guy will soon come along. Best of luck girl!
2007-01-15 18:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by iluvatm 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WAY TO GO!!!
They must be confusing "prude" with someone who has a strong sense of self and some men (especially those who only want one thing) are threatened by that. Hang in there and no that they really are just being vindictive because they know your standards are higher than theirs and it makes them feel guilty. I'm proud of you!!!!
2007-01-15 18:20:37 · answer #11 · answered by Valrosa 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋