How would you reply to this?

Question

Dearest Sexy,

Thank you again for being so good to me. You have a long history of sending very nice, poetic, thoughtful emails. I am not as creatively inclined but I'd like to tell you some things from the heart. You are full of kindness. I can trust you, and I have immense confidence in you. You have personal integrity which I find admirable, respectable, and endlessly attractive.

My life revolves around Nessa most of the time, and you have never made me feel bad about not being able to give you my full attention. I always knew I had to be extra careful in choosing who to spend time with because of having an impressionable, vulnerable young person in my care. Therefore I did not want to get in over my head too quickly, and lose sight of what is important. But I've gotten to know you over the past many months, and since I have a moment, I wanted to take the time to make sure you know how much I appreciate you.

First of all I want to thank you again for being so flexible and understanding. You see that I do not have the freedom of a single person, and even though you do not have a child of your own you understand as if you did. In fact you work together as a team when we're all together, especially the little details such as holding a door or helping with a jacket. Those things you do I deeply appreciate and make you a hero to me. I know you well enough to know that you're not just putting on an act, you are just a naturally helpful soul. Plus you set such a good example in front of my girl, and you can't even put a value on something like that especially when there has never been a good example like that in her life before. The fact you treat me well reflects back to her so it's a double good deed.

If I never got mixed up with a bad guy many years ago, if history could be changed I simply wish I could have had a child with you instead. Had we somehow been able to meet a decade ago, wouldn't things be different. The imagination can crank out endless possibilities but perhaps the right time never was back then, for either of us. We only have today, and the mystery of the future to work with. Fantasizing about what could have happened in the past is useless, so that leaves fantasizing about the future.

I don't believe in fate or destiny, I feel that what happens in life is largely influenced by acting upon what you want to happen. In a way I think it's a mistake to lay back and think "this was meant to be," because then people stop putting forth an effort and don't have to make decisions. And that line of thinking can also wrongly justify staying in a bad situation, such as in abuse-- such if someone already has it in their head that "this was meant to be," and is too stubborn to see things falling apart. So, even though it is romantic to think that you and I were "meant to be," I think it is far more more beautiful to know that some things really are in our control. I want you. (Not just sexually.) Today, and tomorrow, and thereafter, and I am willing to work for it and work with you to achieve mutual goals.

Thank you so much for being a part of my life. Thank you for coming into the New Year with me. This is very special to me. You are very special to me. You have given me hope and a sense of belonging. Sometime I feel like only now my life has really begun since I met you. Instead of trapping me, you have freed me. Since I do not have to rely on wishful thinking, I do not have to call you the man of my dreams. You are not a fantasy, you are a reality.

Love Pumpkin

Answer 1

Well, do you feel the same way? Geez I hope so and you're not just leading her on...

If you are good at expressing your feelings, you can write back with something similar about how you feel. But don't feel obligated to. That was from her heart, it wasn't a contest or something you have to match.

All you have to say is, "Thank you for an absolutely perfect email. I love you, too. I can't wait to see you tonight and talk more."

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I would begin by thanking this person profusely for giving you such high praise!!! It sounds like this person has deep feelings for you. Have you thought of asking this person out for a romantic date, just the two of you? How do you feel about this person? Are you considering a romantic (and long-term) relationship with this person? Start all of the rest off by thanking her for all the fantastic and very flattering nice things she has said about you, then.......see what happens between the two of you!

Answer 4

Only in the signature do I see the word "love". I see affection, gratitude and respect and while these are admirable qualities, the letter lacks passion. And love and passion are two emotions I find entirely necessary to my life. To live without them, to me is entirely
unthinkable.
Achieving mutual goals be damned! I am a passionate person and need and want someone with like feelings. I really don't see a good future here.
That's how I would answer it. But that's just me.

Answer 5

She is ready for a future with you. You respond on your feelings and plans. If you expressed this before the letter than she wants to know how you feel now, since she expressed her self to you.

Answer 6

Here is the cliff notes:

Dear Sexy,
I'm very long winded.

I have a baby I have to spend time with instead of you.

I wish I could have had a baby with you instead, in retrospect.

I want to have sex with you that could lead to a long long relationship.

And i want to date you.

Love Pumpkin.

My response: Uh, if that's what you want, that's cool.

Answer 7

its very sweet and heartfelt. before you reply please figure out if your feelings for 'pumpkin' are as deep and forever as hers. if so, happily ever after to you. if not, be honest. the truth sometimes hurts but its usually better in the long run. good luck.

Answer 8

Dear Pumpkin,

I know I'm a no good, philandering mistress, but you make it sound so noble.

Love Sexy.

Answer 9

Wow wow sounds like fairy tale. I wish I had a girlfriend like that. But then, I am not as thoughtful as you are.

Answer 10

I d say - Dear too long email, summarize it and send me again. I don't have time to read. Love...