Last year there was this guy who really liked me, but I didn't like him as more than a friend. We remained friends (friends with benefits), but I know that I hurt him (I ended up liking his cousin). When I got back home, I realized that I really did like him, as more than a friend. We kept in touch through e-mail almost everyday, and I eventually told him that I wanted to get back together with him, as I decided to go back for another year of study abroad. We both decided we'd see how things went. Over the summer, he stopped e-mailing as much and when I got back, he kept making excuses not to hang out with me. He stopped talking to me altogether for a month and then texted saying he was sorry, he had had a friend who was really sick. We hung out for a couple of days. He then texted and told me that he didn't think he liked me as much as I seemed to like him and that he felt awkward around me. I don't understand as I know that he really liked me and now doesn't even want to be my friend
2007-01-15 18:05:36 · 8 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably wasn't able to forgive you for your rejection before, and attraction to his cousin. That's tough on a person.
Here's an article about ending relationships. It says quick and sure is best. Maybe you should consider the experts advice and just move on immediately. Find something to occupy yourself right away. Something you enjoy. Get together with an old friend, find a new one, just let this guy go so you don't end up wasting several months of your life thinking about him. It hurts, but it will hurt for a shorter period of time if you do this. Love to you.
http://personals.yahoo.com/us/static/singles-life_steps-to-ending-it;_ylc=X3oDMTI0OGlrMmtuBF9TAzk2NTMxOTczBF9zAwRzZWMDYnJlYWt1cC1ndWlkZS1oZWFydGJyZWFrZXJzBHNsawN0ZW4tc3RlcHMtZW5kaW5n
2007-01-15 18:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that 'sick friend' was really another girl. Guys change their minds like we do only our reasons are usually better :o) I would just let it go and find someone that will give you their undivided attention. You are young, wild and free and how amazing is it that you can study abroad? That opens up a whole different kind of guy to choose from! Don't limit yourself to just one guy if he is being like that. It's his loss! There is someone waiting right around the corner that's even better!
2007-01-16 02:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person's feelings for another person can change at a moment's notice, often for no apparent reason. If he said he doesn't like you as much as you like him, then trust him. It seems as if he got over you after you rejected him for his cousin. It doesn't take much time for feelings to change, in this case, it happened over a summer. Move on and find a guy that will be as into you as you are into him.
2007-01-16 02:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope he has started a crush on a another girl because when he had the feeling about you, you rejected him and as u say u hurt him.may be the new girl is more caring than u. the first thing u have to do is to talk with him in a very open manner.because sometimes this may not be the case. u have to solve this just by negotiating with him. this is only and opinion.just follow your feelings.
2007-01-16 02:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by lakshitha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he got what he wants , YOU ,now he have you he is searching for a nother goal, ..sorry to say that ...you need now to go and find new things to do , show him that you have a lot of things that keeps you busy and you are not upset of what he is doing ..send him email asking how he is doing and why he is not talking to you in a funny way ,,then he will ran back to you ..good luck
2007-01-16 02:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Music 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
liking someone is just a feeling like alot of feelings we have and get everyday all all of them have the same effect on our lives but it is we try to make something out of it and make it big.
I am sure if you give up thinking about him, you will forget him and get another one better. enjoy your life and never limit the beautiful life just to be with someone.
2007-01-16 02:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by un_1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have felt awkward because you have already shown him your feelings for him or that u became too attached to him already. sometimes people (men) are afraid of commitment for many reasons. he may have his own issues, dont pressure him into something you want to happen. give him time. eventually he will talk to you, if not, well, he aint worth it.
2007-01-16 02:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by reiven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry no offence to you but maybe it was the way you treated him for so long.Aperson can only take so much.Maybe he ws scared that you would tell him what he told you.
2007-01-16 02:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋