I'm in my mid thirties and dating a woman. Do women really expect sex? What if I don't want to have sex? Is sex a requirement for an intimate relationship?
I like her and don't want sex to get in the way.
2007-01-15 18:00:06 · 26 answers · asked by Phillip 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I absolutely hate the answers so far that make us look stupid. Keep in mind we are thirty-something career people interested in marriage, eventually. We aren't in great need for sex. In fact neither of us desire sex. I just want to know other peoples' opinions.
2007-01-15 18:20:14 · update #1
You need to talk to her and ask her how she feels about it. Some women require sex and to others its not important. You can be intimate by cuddling ad kissing. Being intimate is not always a physical thing. It can be an emotional, mental thing.
2007-01-15 18:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to marry her with in a year and have passionate sex with her on the honeymoon? Honestly, sex can only get in the way of a relationship if you are saving it for marriage for religious or other personal reasons. However, if you do not plan on marrying her and sex is just not your cup of tea, then maybe you should just be her friend. I would be very confused by a man who never wanted to have sex with me and I would think he did not find me attractive. I think you need to talk to her about this and decide if you will ever have sex with her in the future. If the answer is no, then you should just be her friend and let her find someone that will give her everything that she needs and desires.
2007-01-15 18:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex always changes the relationship!
I don't know about this woman, but most women I know, myself included, see having sex as taking the relationship to another level: a more committed one.
I do not believe you have to have sex to be intimate though. I always thought that was the view point of men???I would love to be with a man who did not expect me to have sex unless I fell in love with him. I can go out to dinner and a movie and the guy thinks he's going to wake up in my bed. It's really tough to just date and have a chance to get to know someone because the guy expects sex for his date dollars. Maybe I should go out with you....good luck.
ps. If I were you, I would talk to her about this issue.
2007-01-15 18:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be intimate without sex is not impossible. just spend quality time together, have nice conversations, let sparks fly.. This way both of you will get to know each other pretty well and get intimate (w/o sex). Whats important is both of you enjoy each others company and do stuff that both of you like.
sex is not a must for women. but sometimes when thers chemistry, it will happen. so, to answer your question on do we really expect it, id have to say yes some times.
to let you know..We (women) think U (men) expect sex in any kind of relationship. hehe! i havnt come across a guy like you --having to think tis way
Gd luck !
2007-01-15 18:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by nickname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good discussion. Sex is known to be the "Spark" in a relationship but, what really makes the "spark" stay? You can have sex everyday...And it still wouldn't keep a woman satisfied EMOTIONALLY. Sex is just a bonus...not a relationship builder. Don't stress over it....If you feel as if you dont want to have sex, that's perfectly fine! If she wants sex...explain to her about how you feel. Tell her you don't want to move too quickly and you'd like to explore her mind and heart before having a intimate relationship...I'm sure she'll understand....Probably even want you more!
2007-01-15 18:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by A Real Love 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most people falsely equate intimacy with sex. Intimacy is really about emotional connection. Sex actually lowers the level of intimacy if the underlying commitment level is not high.
So if a woman expects sex but you don't, maybe she's not the woman for you. Or maybe by refusing and standing on principle, you can bring her around to your view (I've seen it happen, and that couple has a great marriage now)
2007-01-15 18:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by John D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's pretty obvious if you both have no desire for sex what seems to be the problem you have really answered your own question here if your both fine with having a relationship without sex go for it you ain't going to have any worries from the lady you are dating are you ???? so why won't it work out.
2007-01-15 19:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by flossypants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All girls want their boy to find them sexually attractive, its part of her self worth. If you don't show her you want her physically she may become confused and look else where for confirmation that she is attractive. It really depends on how she views herself, you and your relationship. If she is mature and realistic enough to realize sex is not the center point of a relationship, then she would also realize sex is not a requirement for an intI'mate relationship. However, all girls get horny sometimes (as do guys!) and im sure she'd like a bit of sex from you. I think that as people become older, sex in a relationship goes down in value and everyday intimacy goes up.....priorities change.
2007-01-15 18:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by dreamingzzzzz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an enjoyable act, but I don't think it should be a prerequisite to a good relationship.
Explain to your woman how you feel. If she's worth keeping, she'll understand.
Furthermore, there might be some sort of compromise in there. Who knows? The best thing I can tell you is to talk it over, make your feelings known, and see where it leads from there.
2007-01-15 18:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by White Dude X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually, you don't. you can be intimate with a woman by knowing her mind, her ideas, her innermost feelings. sex just adds spice to a relationship, specially if it is a good one. sex is not the all and be all of a relationship. it depends on both your understanding, however. what if the woman you're dating wants it? it is part of having a relationship, after all. do you like the woman platonically or are you planning on advancing your relationship to the next level, higher one? think about it.
2007-01-15 18:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋