there is this guy im seeing he wants to be with me but he cant get over his x wife she moved back in with him hes with her cause he promised her mom he would take car of her but i feel like 2nd place and im tired of it what should i do?
2007-01-15 17:40:44 · 13 answers · asked by sassy is sad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's time for you to face the truth. He is with her because he wants to be with her regardless of the "promise he made to her mother". He IS treating you like second place and you're letting him get away with it. You deserve to be with someone who will love and value you and treat you NUMBER ONE!!!
2007-01-15 17:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by Valrosa 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he can't get over his ex wife, then, he didn't move in with her because he promised the Mother. And for a man who is going back and forth between women, his word doesn't mean much. Your best bet would be to leave him and find a man who will make you his one and only.
2007-01-15 17:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they were divorced or broke up, which ever the case may be, she is no longer his responsibility. But since he is putting his ex before you, you should dump him. If she moved back in with him, because he wants to take care of her, then you will always be in second place in his heart.
2007-01-15 17:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... ask youself do you want to share ur guy with another girl? If not tell him. Love comes with sacrifices! So if he likes you better than his EX than he would rather make a few more enermies< Ex's mom>. Or there is also an alternate way which is just forget about him and get yourself another boyfriend.
:)
2007-01-15 17:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He promised her mom that he will take care of her by divorcing her and then still living with her?
You are definitely out of place. He is hiding something from you.
2007-01-15 17:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by AnSID 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to sort out his feelings - without pressure, and you need to respect his final decision. It's easy to be torn between two, but it's either you or her. And if it's her, you have to be understanding about it because he does have responsibility and it's very noble of him (I think) to be responsible and keep his promises. You're not second place though - love isn't a race. There are so many degrees and types of love, you're probably ranking high first somewhere. Good luck. And remember why you like him. Don't nag, okay? =)
2007-01-15 17:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by al.godnessmary 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get it through his head of how you feel because he is with you now and not her and if he cares for you he would put you in 1st and everything else last. If he promised to do that then let him do that but not in a way that would jeopardize your relationship. If it doesn't get through his head... Lose HIM!
2007-01-15 17:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alchemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should find a new man, he has some things to work out
he with his ex wife, because he promised the mother he would
take care of her, but they are not marry any more, and he want'to
be with you as well. sound like drama you dont need.
2007-01-15 17:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he's already made his decision. I hate to tell you this, but you are in second place. He needs to leave her alone or leave you alone. The truth hurts.
2007-01-15 17:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like bad news. He still lives with his ex this means he still isn't over her. Tell him its you or her and he has to choose between you.
2007-01-15 18:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Alex Awesome Valentine, Esq. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋