Does personality and intelligence really matter more?
Question aimed mostly at guys, but ladies, what are your experiences too?
2007-01-15 16:59:29 · 39 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Looks are more important. I stopped looking for intelligence and personality in women a long time ago.
2007-01-15 17:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid some of the people here may be being a little disingenuous. When you meet someone new, looks are by far of the greatest importance.
People won't bother to get to know you well enough to find out if you have a good sense of humour, or are confident or sensitive or intelligent/successful/honest/ reliable/passionate/know lots of cool sex positions or whatever in the first place if your looks don't push their buttons. However if you work/study/hang together, or if already in a developing relationship that's when other characteristics start to figure.
I certainly know good-looking men who've settled with rather unattractive women because they were thrust together for long periods and the woman was simply a nice person.
2007-01-15 17:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by servir tres frais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go out on the pull, looks are the thing that you look for so yes when you first meet someone. However I have experienced on more than one occasion where I haven't been intially attracted to a girl, for whatever reason, but after getting to know her have found her really attractive. I'm a big believer in the fact that you need both physical and physcological attraction in a relationship, so in the long term personality and intelligence are a must
2007-01-15 20:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experiences with meeting a new person is that looks are important only to the extent that the person can help. For example, genetics are set, but hygine is manageable. Clothing can be changed, while skin tone cannot. Hair can be neatened, but its thick/thinness is permenant. What a person CAN manage reflects who they are somewhat. What a person cannot change (due to genetics, economics, whatever) is not as important to me.
A persons words and actions are what really matters to me, and kindness is crucial, but not wit or even intelligence.
2007-01-15 17:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In the beginning its looks that attract you to a person. Anyone wants someone beautiful to look at. Personality and intelligence are a plus.
2007-01-15 17:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Felton E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that looks will always be a major factor. But the older you get, you tend to realise that personality and intelligence are also very important things to be considered when dating someone. When you are younger it is all looks. But then we come to realise that it is all very well having a stunning partner, but it is doomed if you have nothing to talk about, and you are bored and have nothing in common.
2007-01-15 17:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks attract you to a person but its the personality that determines if you want to be with them. From my experience, some of the prettiest girls are insecure and very superficial. So when I see a fine girl I want to see what her personality is like first. Average looking girls are usually nicer because Im assuming their looks dont attract as many guys as a hot girl but it depends. I know some ugly girls who think they look good and are bitches. This is the worst combination. I look for personality first, if the personality isnt there i dont care how good you look.
2007-01-15 17:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by jason j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you meet them.....that is if you have known them for a while or if you first meet them in say a bar....if it's meeting somebody for the first time the physical appearance is all you have to go on at first but if I met some stunning girl but after talking to her for a while didn't feel like we were clicking it would put me off her.....so it's really about the whole package....I personally love women who have something about them, I suppose you could say feisty.....also I enjoy having a laugh so they need to have a good sense of humour....they do to put up with me....haha !!
2007-01-19 00:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as they say the first impression is the lasting impression. So your first impression does matter so appesrance is a big thing... but when you get down to it your personality is what matters most. But I doubt I need to tell you that. you seem bright asking a whole bunch of GUYS which is more important!
2007-01-15 17:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by Suya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100% Personality Matters
25% Looks Matters
110% behaviour Matters
2007-01-15 17:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋