What do I do. We just officially started going out Saturday, but we have been together since xmas. Right now he is "trying" to get his ex gf a job at his work, but I sometimes wonder why he needs to talk to her everday after her employee training? I'm not very jealous of her, but yesturday he was on the phone with her for an hour right before we left for the club. What should I do or feel?
2007-01-15 16:53:21 · 14 answers · asked by Barlow 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I doubt he is still doing her b/c he doesn't get to see her much b/c we're always together, but he is just always on the phone with her on our dates it seems.
2007-01-15 17:00:35 · update #1
People he is not cheating he is just talking to much to her and he says its job training and I just want to know how to get him to stop talking to her!
2007-01-15 17:05:40 · update #2
You are walking on a tight rope. Put an end to that. he is not over her and chances are they will get back together coz they have good memories of the past. I have seen a lot of this before, even me I nearly fell into such a predicament. He must stop seeing her or talking to her, that is if you are still interested in a relationship with him.Wake up girl, what do you think they spend an hour on the fone talking about?? Give him an ultimatum and if he does not agree, leave him coz you are on the road to heartbreak hotel. Why did they break up if they are gonna be all over each other like that. He probably jus using you for company so he does not get bored. Take control, good luck
2007-01-15 17:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him you shouldn't be with him. And yes, maybe he will mess up, but then the fault is all on him. I'm not turn a blind eye to the situation, but get so jealous and untrusting that you are the cause of damaging your relationship.
He sounds like he just wants to be a good guy. I'm in the ex-girl in another situation and me and the boy would talk everyday if the current girl wasn't freaking out and creating drama. We went out for 3 years and went thru a lot together so he is undeniably my friend.
You should consider this also cause its what going on with me: the current girls drama is actually very insulting because I am NOT the type to adulterate. But if she wants to smear my image and act that way, I am considering giving her a run for her money.
All in all, the course of the relation lies with you. All you can do is talk it out with your boo and make what seems to e the right decision.
2007-01-16 01:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!,
Breakups are bad, u have to understand that, it might just be a passing phase, and immediately after a breakup it is very natural for either of partners to have a tendency to make each others life secure, that explains the job finding and talking to her, but if this continues like for more than 2-3 weeks, i think then u will have to reconsider your decision about him.
As of now, i think u have nothing to worry about, it is just a passing phase.
Hope i didn't get too personal, sorry if i did
2007-01-16 01:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kiran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He is causing drahma in your life already. Besides it's not about the gf. It's about his level of commitment. A relationships new beginning should be the best part. And by beginning I mean the first 7 months not 3 weeks. He's just not that into you. Sorry!
2007-01-16 01:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kim D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he has feelings for her, and if so, what kind. Then, listen to what your heart and gut tell you. Don't ignore your own interests, and tell him how you feel about their interacting together and see how he responds. He may not know his own feelings, but let him know that you are open to the truth, and he does not need to be secretive with you.
2007-01-16 01:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd bail out. He's disrespecting you and your newfound relationship right from the start. If you allow it to continue, you're showing disrespect for yourself and he will continue to do this and who know what else. You will only get hurt. You deserve better.
2007-01-16 00:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's probably still messing around with her!...bc unless they have a child together, there's really no reason why they should be talking so much...tell him how you feel and if he still continues to deal w/ her or he's actually sneaking to talk to her dump him and move on
2007-01-16 00:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by !!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him & dont talk to him becoz its sure. that He doesnt Love u.....
& if he ask whats the reason about your this becoz than simply say :- ''' Dont u know the reason '''?? & say :- 'I dont want to come between u & ur Ex To whom u LOve .......
& say Good Bye too........
Ya.... it can be difficult for u but Dear ''Be Practical '' in life
i'm sure. ''u deserve someone better who only loves u''
2007-01-16 01:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple! ur bf still loves her n i guess he is using u to make her feel jealous or something. DUMP HIM
2007-01-16 00:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by flawless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF A GUY STILL KEEPS IN CONTACTS WITH THE EX.........DUMP HIM. TRUST ME ON THIS ONE GIRL. IF YOU WERE STILL TALKING TO YOUR EX, HE WOULD BE TELLING YOU TO STOP TALKING TO HIM. DUMP HIM.
2007-01-16 01:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Italionaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋