This is kind of tricky, and it's been nagging at me inside for a while...
There's a girl I really love, and we've been going out for a while now. We get along really well, and enjoy being around each other. We've worked through a lot of fights and despite arguments and problems over the past years, we still love each other, and still have fun together.
The thing is, I've been around her long enough to know that this is not the girl I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with, but I feel guilty just throwing away years of work on a relationship.
Not to mention, I really love her and would miss her like crazy, and I know she would be heartbroken if I left her.
I'm leaving for college after this coming summer, and we both have a sort of unspoken understanding that after that summer is when we're going to break up, and go our separate ways, but it still tears me apart to think about leaving her.
Is this just one of those things in life I need to deal with?
2007-01-15 16:49:50 · 6 answers · asked by Chef Smallfry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you know in your heart that she not the one that you want to
be with down the road, then what the point in being with her,
all you going to do is waste precious time and that not good for
anyone. time to move on, since you are starting college then
that would be a good time to let it go, it not like she does not
see this as well.
2007-01-15 16:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as a wasted relationship or wasted years with another person.
People learn SO much from being in a relationship. I'm pretty sure you've both learned some lessons on love by being together over the years and you can definitely take those lessons with you into your next relationship.
So this wasn't by any means a waste.
If you're unhappy with her and you know you can't spend your lives together, then don't. You should NEVER do anything in a relationship because of guilt. Because you'll be completely unhappy together and it'll start to show. Sooner or later, you'll have to break it to her and she'll be even MORE hurt that you thought you had to stick it out so long just so you wouldn't feel guilty about breaking it off.
Basically, by waiting to tell her you're unhappy, you're hurting her more than you need to. Tell her now and get it over with. That way you can both begin to mend and move onto other people instead of clinging onto each other out of guilt when one of you is unhappy.
2007-01-16 00:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. It's cool that you do have some consideration for her feelings but in the end it will be best. At least you guys recognize the problems now rather than later down the road.
2007-01-16 00:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Italionaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, it is something that you are just going to have to deal with.
Things like this happen in life all the time.Try and stay friends but.
Good Luck. ash
2007-01-16 00:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bootsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and are going to miss her alot, she must mean more to you than u think
2007-01-16 00:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by dave m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. You'll learn and grow from it.
2007-01-16 00:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋