So the thing is i love my ex-girlfriend beyond belief. We split B/C i think the next step in our relationship was to get engaged and my ex was very scared with that idea. Our relationship wasnt moving foward B/C she wasnt ready to make that much of a commitment. We dated for 2 years and i want to be with her again please help with any advice. We've kinda drifted apart but we are still on kind of a friend basis. we broke up about 4 months ago if that helps at all
2007-01-15 16:39:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well tell her you love her
2007-01-15 16:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still friends that is a good sign. No one was angry over something. I would ask her to an outing of some kind like a festival of some sort that lasts most of the day. That way you will have a lot of time to talk and feel out the waters so to speak. Also it is sort of non committal and non threatening, un like a regular date. If that is not an option, a regular dinner date is the standard to wine and dine. Tell her how you feel and hope for the best. Best of fortune to you.
2007-01-16 00:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be. If after two years, she was still not ready to settle down, I think she doesn't want to settle down with you. She may still have some of the 'what if' stuff going on in her head. One big thing you left out is ya'lls age. An ex is an ex. There will always be that little bit of hurt that comes with splitting up, and that can grow to be a big problem.
2007-01-16 00:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want her and she doesn't want you. What you are asking for from her is reasonable and to be expected between two people who really love each other. The problem is, I think this might be a one-sided relationship. I suggest you get out socially and have contact with other people. If you chase a person who is not interested in you, even if you catch them, you will live an unhappy life. Try to get out and get involved in other things, you need some more time away from her in order to be able to think about what your own needs and wants are.
2007-01-16 00:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys spoken about the relationship since the break up? If not, maybe you should talk to her and let her know how you really feel. The question is, are you willing to be with someone who says they are not ready to commit you are? I was in a very serious relationship with my first love. We broke because he had a fear of commitment. I stayed friends with him because I wanted him in my life. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else. I told him how I felt and that I wanted to continue where we left off. He told me he loved me, but he can't commit himself to me in the way I wanted him to. I felt like someone took a hammer and beat my chest several times! Heartbroken, I took his answer and the pieces of my heart, and moved on. It was hard but I had to conclude that it was not going to work. So, I say sit down and have a serious discussion with her. Don't let her twist your mind. Stick to your guns. If she seems ifee about getting back into a relationship with you, leave it alone.
By the way, he came back begging a year later. I had moved on by then. He said he didn't know what he had til it was gone!
2007-01-16 00:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u've shown good commitment 2 her.have u bothered 2 find out y she doesn't wanna get engaged 2 u?i'm not sure she luvs or trusts u dat much,i bet u can tell b/c if she does she'd haved jumped @ d idea and she gave u a space of 4 months doin what?c'mon if she really luvs she'd have just ask 4 some time 2 think it out.i think u shd just move on.
2007-01-16 00:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by snowman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a long time to get over failed relationships. But you never know she might be missing you too. I think you should tell her how you feel. You don't have her now, so you don't have anything to lose. If she comes back to you, you know it was ment to be, if she doesn't you know it wasn't ment to be.
Just remember you don't know what's around the corner.....
2007-01-16 00:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you just need time to deal with what going on right
now, it normal to feel as you do , you were with her for some
time and you want more then she did. but now just take time
to find your self then see what happen down the road, if you
want marriage and she does not, then you will bring a lot
of pain to you and her, so just take it slow and go from there.
2007-01-16 00:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she left b/c of u wanted to get engaged she is not ready.. so u could keep seeing her or for get about her..
2007-01-16 00:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on dude..that's a bad situation, I know from experience.
2007-01-16 00:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by C0CH1N0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but move on. Thats the truth.
2007-01-16 00:45:17 · answer #11 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋