I don't think it's a big deal as long as you do it safely and not to get drunk. I like to have a Cosmo or something when we eat out, but my husband makes me feel horrible about it and so I never drink anymore. Not because I think it's horribly wrong, but because I don't want it to cause a fight between my husband and I. We're only 24 and we just had a little boy and I will never have alcohol in the house or be drunk in front of him, but I don't see anything wrong with going out every once in a while and having a drink with our friends. He refuses, though and makes a big scene and it just bothers me. I'm very responsible and I'm a SAHM and I just need to get out and have fun sometimes. (leaving my son with a responsible adult that is) I don't know. I think it has to do with the fact that is dad is a preacher and he wants me to be perfect and not do anything his dad would deem unacceptable..but shouldn't I live by my own standards and not his or his fathers?
2007-01-15 16:35:17 · 17 answers · asked by ... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is only recently my husband has acted this way. We drank together before I was pregnant, though he didn't seem to enjoy it.
Yes, it is a way to unwind for me..not something I HAVE to have. I don't think about it all the time.. just once in a while with the weekend rolls around and I actually have a night with my husband and friends.
2007-01-15 16:51:47 · update #1
Jesus' first miracle was turning water into wine. If it was wrong to drink it why would He have done that? Some people try to say that it was just grape juice they drank back then. If that's true why would the Bible instruct us to "not be drunk with new wine?" If wine was not alcoholic how could one get drunk from it? Why did people think the disciples were drunk when they came from the upper room after being filled with the Holy Ghost? Because wine is wine & when taken in excess it can make you drunk. Jesus turned water into wine. It 's not a sin to drink it. As a SAHM I can identify with you in wanting a drink on occasion. Like you I also don't drink to get drunk. Your husband is not your judge. To give him that power will lead to biterness & resentment in your marriage & could very well be the downfall of your marriage. The Bible says we each have to work out our own salvation with fear and trembling. That means that it's not your husbands decision to make. It also means that for some people who have addictive behaviors it may be a sin for them to drink. For me, it's not. You don't live by your husbands standards or his fathers standards. You live by God's standards. Jesus turned the water into wine. I'm sure He then drank it as well. And the Bible says He knew no sin.
2007-01-15 16:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking if it is a sin to drink alcohol, it doesn't declare that anywhere in the Bible. It says not to drink it to excess. Going out and getting drunk for the sake of it is wrong in God's sight. But an occassional drink is not condemned. The problem can come from the fact that if you allow that in your life and down the road something terrible happens (loss of someone close to you, accident, etc) it is easy to begin to drink to excess because that is where you get your comfort. No matter how much you think that couldn't happen it could; however, if you don't drink at all the possiblity is much less. So is it wrong and a sin, no (Paul even tells Timothy to drink some wine to help his stomach); but it could open the door to future problems.
2007-01-16 00:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by hartsock1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be a problem for you, but if it is a stumbling block to someone who is watching you then it is a problem. The fact that you have to ask the question alludes to enough doubt in your own mind that you should be able to see the answer. Also, every drunk started with a drink and they all thought they could handle it. If you never take the first drink then you don't have to worry about it. It sounds like alcohol is already really important to you and you don't even realize it.
2007-01-16 00:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by monetspicasso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible does not forbid drinking, It does however say that we should be sober minded. It sounds like you are responsible when you drink. Just how important is it for you to drink, and why?? It seems like it is simply a way for you to unwind occasionally and releive stress. This does not sound bad at all, it sounds like you are a very responsible mother and wife. Maybe with a little time your husband will feel more comfortable with you having an occasional drink... Good Luck!
2007-01-16 00:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by caleb d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It states in the Bible not to engage in drunkenness. If you are just having a drink or two and not getting drunk I do not see a problem with it. But by the same notion I think you need to examine yourself as to why you want to have that one drink so bad. It is obvious since you came on here asking our opinions. Could you not just have a Coke or Pepsi? I am not against drinking but it sounds as though this will cause a major problem in your relationship. If you are ready to deal with whatever conflicts it brings, I would say go ahead and do what you want. I am a firm believer in doing what you want, but if you are married sometimes you need to make compromises.
2007-01-16 00:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi KHO,
I think that it is perfectly fine for you to have an occasional drink. Many good Christians like to have a drink sometimes. Even Jesus drank wine. CS Lewis drank at a bar with his friends all the time, and there probably isn't a better example of a good Christian from this century than him. I'm sorry that you and your husband fight about this. Remember that God wants us to be happy and rejoice.
2007-01-16 00:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Suzanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but sometimes in marriage, we all have to sacrifice some things for the best for our marriage. Would you rather have a happier relationship with your husband or that once in awhile drink? I'd think a happier marriage would make your life much more satisfying than that occasional drink. It it makes him happy in you denying yourself - just deny yourself. I used to enjoy alot of things that I gave up - even - even - having my own personal car and the new stylish clothing I like - to save money because he is happier when I'm not spending too much. Are there areas of your marriage where you wish your husband would sacrifice something for you? Well, once you get the hang of giving something up for him - you'll begin to see him give into things and sacrifice for you. It will bring your marriage closer - which I would think would be totally more important than an occasional drink - if he knows you really wanted to do that - and that you're giving it up just for him - it will make him feel like a million bucks that you care about him so much. I think it would be worth it for you to do. I think there's weightier issues than trying to figure out if this or that is acceptable for you to do.
2007-01-16 00:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a christian. I don't drink, but there are certain drinks like wine that I like. I think as long as u don't get drunk with what u consume. Well anything with rum is a no no, because rum or whisky is man made and could be addictive. But wine is from grapes and could be consume in moderation. I say if ur husband doesn't agree you have to respect hime. ok!
2007-01-16 00:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by empress29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking, smoking, eating fast foods - all things are legal, but not all edify.You CAN do it, but what good would it bring?
Married to the preacher's son - do not be unequally yoked. Make a good marriage of the one you already have. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence, it's greener where you water it.
Don't want to live by his or his father's standards - live by God's standards. God's instruction to husbands is "Love your wives" to wives it is "Respect your husbands".
2007-01-16 01:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that this is a reaction to what you perceive as your husband's expectations of you and that you may feel that you can't measure up to them? As long as you feel that there is something good in getting out and having fun then you will think that you need that. Aren't you able to be the wife and mother you want to be without drinking?
2007-01-16 00:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by hisgloryisgreat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋