My current guy has very very low self esteem. I tell him daily how beautiful he is, but he still feels very self conscious. Example: he got a haircut a month ago and wasn't happy with it (even though I couldn't even tell a difference). Since then, whenever he goes out he puts on a hat. Sometimes I playfully take it away, but he nearly goes into panic. We've very playful, and if we were at the house he wouldn't care.
Anyway, other than just telling him he looks wonderful, shouldn't feel the need to cover up, is beautiful, etc... how can I boost his self esteem?
2007-01-15 16:29:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Beautiful is a word we both agree should be used on males and females. If I tell him he's beautiful, it gets a far better reaction than if I tell him he's hott.
I completely accept him for who he is, I just wish I could help him overcome his problems. (they started five years ago)
2007-01-15 17:45:21 · update #1
Keep assuring him that he looks fine (even with his haircut) and that he shouldnt be so self conscious. He might have been like this for a long time and if he doesnt talk about it, it may be harder than what my advice is. Just make sure he feels comfortable around you, thats the main thing and yes keep up the compliments - maybe not beautiful maybe u could tell him hes hott or gorgeous or handsome or attractive whatever but beautiful is more of a thing for guys to say to girls. Hopefuly he will gradually learn to not be so hung up on looks. Make sure you live by example that looks arent everything its whats on the inside. i know that sounds stupid but its true. let him know that you fell for him not just for looks, but for all his other qualities too. good luck he sounds like a nice guy.
2007-01-15 17:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to show him how proud you are to be with him in public (although I'm sure you do already). As a guy, I find it reassuring when my girlfriend holds my hand, hugs me, kisses me and so on in public because it shows everyone that she's happy to have me. Again, you probably already do these things, but I just wanted to make you aware of the fact that as a guy, I feel very strongly about this.
2007-01-19 01:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Joesph Robinson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very tough..he needs to do challenging activities to boost his self confidence..It took me nearly 15 years.. If he has disfunctional parents your job will be very hard, It is bothering you..but if you can't accept him as he is then you should move on.
2007-01-16 00:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by worldsource19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem ...only probly worse.
there is very little you can do.
it is like telling an alcoholic to stop drinking or an anorexic to start eating right. hopeless.
he needs professional help (like me) if it us that bad...or better yet... divine help.
2007-01-16 00:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him he's beautiful, that's something he should tell you. find something he's good at, and do that with him. tell him you're better at something than he is, than let him win (basicaly thins that guys do to make girls feel better).
2007-01-16 00:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by pup37 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't it has to come within.
2007-01-16 00:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋