Is my ex hoping for a future booty call or...?

Question

My ex-boyfriend dumped me a year ago, yet last week he called me and asked me to go see a movie with him. I went with him, he picked me up & after the movie he just took me home.On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to see me 'every once in awhile'. Why does he wanna hang out and see me once in awhile, when we only dated for one month? By the way, we never had sex during our relationship cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. We would cuddle, kiss, hug, & hold hands, it was a pure & beautiful thing. Even AFTER he ended it, he would still say hi to me on msn, so we did communicate during this yr. albeit only by msn. We just never met up & he never called me until that day he asked to go see a movie, after the yr. Did he just miss me or does he have bad intentions? He's in Asia now, but comes back in one month. Should I ask for coffee one time, but just as friends? He's 26 & more experienced while I'm 21 & he was my first bf.

Does he want a future booty call or does he just wanna hang out like he said? If he wanted "more" what kind of places would he take me on our "hang outs"?

Answer 1

no i dont think he is looking for a booty call...he knows your intentions and he seems to respect them....if he wanted a booty call he could get that somewhere else.....i think what he is looking for with u is the real thing...or a friendship....either or it seems his intentions are good.

Answer 2

Y'know... she SAYS she doesn't want any strings or promises - and right now she probably believes that - but right now (I take it the divorce has recently become final.>?) she's in a very weird place emotionally. If you do make yourself available for a booty call (or more), the result would be more confusion for those emotions. If what you are ultimately after, the timing is not great for you. Right now you're looking like the transitional man, and if you do take this offer up, that's all you're likely to be - even if it drags on for years and appears to be a proper relationship. (I;ve seen it happen. One person's committed & the other person isn't, even if they're trying to be). If you're just after some fun, it might be ok. But she may come to a point where she would believe that she wants more from you, even though she really doesn't. Like I say, a very confusing emotional time. t's a slippery slope. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Well, it could be that all the time he has been away he has seen nothing better and has convinced himself he's madly in love, and it could be so. On the other hand, my sister married a guy who came back from basic training in the military convinced he was madly in love with her, but she found out afterwards he had proposed to two other girls he had dated before her, and wanted to take advantage of the better treatment married enlisted men get (they are divorced now, after he confessed that). I'm sure he's had chances with other women while away, so I guess what you have to figure out is if he just wants you while he is in town, or if he is seruious, for life? I know it's also a big prestige thing to be the one who takes a girl's virginity, and then leave them, so you have good cause to worry, that's why they used to wait until marriage.

Answer 4

Assuming that you made your intentions clear on not having any relations until marriage, maybe he just wants to keep that door open because he's considering you as marriage material for the future. He may also be trying to test you on how committed you are to waiting for "The Big Day" before you take that plunge. Stick to your guns, and even if he screws up and loses you, the real "Mr. Right" will come. I wish I'd been more like you, maybe I wouldn't be on my 2nd divorce right now. Good luck!

Answer 5

in my opinion, i generally think he wants to stay in touch cos u are a great person. he didnt make a move on u when u went to the movies, so i think he may just want u back in his life. he would rather have you in his life as a friend then nothing. he probably feels bad about breaking up too. i had the same situation, the guy apologised cos it ended really badly and we are soo close friends now. we talk about each others relationships and give each other advice!! and they give the best advice cos they know what you are like in the relationship (good or bad) and its from a guys point of view!!

good luck!

Answer 6

You must have left an impression on him....especially if you never had sex with him. Maybe he's thinking he might want to seriously date you and get to know you ---men are so predictable, if they don't get what they want they are attracted like bees to honey and he'll keep coming back until he gets a taste of what he wants. Books have been written on this subject, just go take a look at the one called, "The Rules" at the bookstore.

Answer 7

If your not to sure and you feel like you might have feeling for him then you should just ask him his intentions. So ppl want to be friends after they break up and some want booty calls. The best thing to do is just confront him. The last thing you want to do is risk your purity
(if it is important to you)to your ex. Be careful and good luck.

Answer 8

from a come-back bf to booty call now huh ask another one i will be here to answer

Answer 9

All men, everywhere, all the time, are thinking about sex. When they can get it, who they can get it from..... the sooner you realize this the better you will feel.

Answer 10

You would think so. But asking over and over and over is NOT the solution.