I work with this girl that likes me, and I like her. Well, I am 21 and she is 18, and her parents are very controlling. We went on a date during our break the other day at work and had a good time. But her parents won't let me take her out. Her parents have never met me, they just don't want this girl to date period. We each like each other but her parents are keeping us from going out. Is there any solution or hope, or should I just give up?
2007-01-15 16:01:10 · 22 answers · asked by blindside_fanatic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not give up, if you really like her and she likes you give it all you got and don't do anything dumb, to make her parents mad.
2007-01-15 16:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by angel_lips 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what is important for you in a relationship.
If u think taking her out is so important then i guess u need to give up coz she cant run away from parents to be with you since she is only 18.
There is another opttion, maybe u can just drop the whole idea of going out and just meet each other at work , before work, after work....find other solutions like tallking on phone, chatting on net.
Maybe after some time when the parents cooled down a bit you can take her out, not often but once a while as not to irritate her parents.
You need to go with the flow or just forget it.
2007-01-16 00:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like each other don't give up...Why dont you just show up at her door step and ask to talk to her parents, Make sure you are being yourself and let them know that you are interested in their daughter and wish to take her out and want to see her more often...Eventually the parents need to let her go and see what is out there...If you are meant to be you will get past this problem andmaybe if they are that bad maybe she should think about moving out on her own to start her life without her parents...People like that will end up ruining her life to push her to do something she may regret..But if she is dedicated to school or something maybe you should be beside her until she conqueres her goals and then move forward with the two of you...Like I said if it is meant to be you will overcome this hurdle and maybe be together as a Married Couple!!
2007-01-16 00:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by DesiGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have hope. She's 18 and moving out of the house soon hopefully. They just don't want their baby to grow up.
Here's a possibly dumb idea.
Have a one on two old fashioned talk with her parents. Be polite and ask permission to date their daughter.
Parents like that ****.
Sounds lame, but could possibly work out.
Good Luck!
2007-01-16 00:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by ARMY Babe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HA! I'd bet $20 right now that she's just making excuses not to date you. If she REALLY liked you, I think she would find a way to date you. She's old enough. She would have to REALLY try hard to let me know that she wants me for me to give her a chance in spite of that. So . . . if you are CERTAIN that she likes you, ie, she calls you all the time, she talks to you sweetly, she complains often about her parents and expresses her wish to be with you, then you might find it worthwhile to wait and just talk to her for now. You can tell her parents that you're just "friends" with her in the meantime. But my guess is that she doesn't like you. Judge for yourself and don't let your high interest make you hallucinate. Good luck!
2007-01-16 00:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to meet her parents. Show them that your a good guy and explain to them that your in it for emotions only that your not just some person out to break their daughter's heart. If they still don't approve she is an adult and can make her own choices. Relationships have a poor chance of working out if the parents and the couple don't get along.
2007-01-16 00:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by KT! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try showing up at her house for a while and letting the parents get to know you? Take the mother flowers, look the father in the eye when you talk to him. They are worried someone will hurt their child and they need some reassurance. If she's worth it, go the extra mile.
2007-01-16 00:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No , dont give up. Go to the parents house and meet them. She is legal age to date , so she should be making that choice and her parents need to let her grow up. Dont stop chasing her if you want to date her.
2007-01-16 00:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe how easily people "give up" these days. If you are interested, then go through the parents. They obviously want to take care of their daughter and you should respect them for it. Get her to invite you to their home for dinner or an evening. Get to know them and let them get to know you. After a time, things will lighten up.
2007-01-16 00:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. this is tough. sometimes we gotta fight for what makes us happy. in this situation i think u should take it one day at a time and continue to see her at work. enjoy the time u do get to see or talk to her. there's not alot u can do, but there is hope. maybe one day she has to go to the store or shopping or sleep over a friends....and well she can instead be on a date with you! get me? avoid calling any attention to yourselves from her parents. be patient let them think nothing is going on, they began to trust her and then bam! she will have more of a chance that way than trying to be rebelious.
2007-01-16 00:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 18, she legally can do as she pleases so she should just tell her parents that she is going to date you.
Simple as that. No one can control her or your lives.
2007-01-16 00:04:55 · answer #11 · answered by Jason 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋