My ex-boyfriend dumped me a year ago, yet last week he called me and asked me to go see a movie with him. I went with him, he picked me up & after the movie he just took me home.On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to see me 'every once in awhile'. Why does he wanna hang out and see me once in awhile, when we only dated for one month? By the way, we never had sex during our relationship cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. We would cuddle, kiss, hug, & hold hands, it was a pure & beautiful thing. Even AFTER he ended it, he would still say hi to me on msn, so we did communicate during this yr. albeit only by msn. We just never met up & he never called me until that day he asked to go see a movie, after the yr. Did he just miss me or does he have bad intentions? He's in Asia now, but comes back in one month. Should I ask for coffee one time, but just as friends? He's 26 & more experienced while I'm 21 & he was my first bf.
2007-01-15 16:00:53 · 8 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We never even went past kissing while we were dating so how could he think I'll just change my mind on sex when he knows how I feel about it, IF that is what he is trying to do? A part of me is very cautious & the other part tells me to give him a chance and be friends. What do u think?
2007-01-15 16:01:59 · update #1
He just misses you and wants to remain in contact , sex isn't the main objective. It may be but not the only one. Emotions rule here. He surely has some regard for you as you were her gf. Don't worry and don't think that much but don't trust him blindly too.
2007-01-15 16:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on your story, you are very much over reacting. he didn't make any sexual advances when you went to see a movie right? if not, then how can you say he is scheming to get you into bed? that's not fair for him. you said that when you were together you never did it. i think he has more opportunity to force you to do it before than now.
give him a chance. even to be your friend. he might have regretted splitting up with you before. you're 21, you should be more open minded about these things.
2007-01-16 00:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want? Do you want to continue seeing him as a friend? If so, coffee is worth a try. Trust your instinct. If you think he is trying to get you into bed, leave. Maybe if you meet him, you drive to where you are going to meet. That way if he gets sleazy, you can leave, and not have to rely on him for a ride home. Also, I am curious as to why you guys broke up after only a month. If it was because you wouldn't sleep with him, forget him for good.
2007-01-16 00:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it pure. Just because he wants to see you doesn't mean he will get into your pants unless you let him get there. If you do, then your intentions were the wrong ones, not his.
Who cares how old he is. respect is respect. "Why Singles are not Married & the Married are Single" is a great book for you and your friends to read while you are still haning in there.
2007-01-16 00:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by pob2572 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he wants to do that. he probably misses you. i guess you miss him a bit too right? maybe he regrets dumping you. but whether or not you want to give him a second chance is up to you. if he asks you to get into bed with him, say a straight "no", dump him and move on. because if he values you for who you are, he wouldnt ask for sex before marriage. remember, if he asks for sex before marriage, give a straight NO. good luck (:
2007-01-16 00:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by mapgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants sex. Besides if he dumped you a yr ago get over it and move on and don't see him anymore. He just wants to get in your pants. Leave it alone girl!
2007-01-16 00:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by texasblueslady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he wants to see if you will have sex with him yet...
2007-01-16 00:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, I think he's just regretful
2007-01-16 00:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sarab s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋