ive been with my bf for over a year and 8 months now and we have dont everything together i mean everything, we have done all our first together, such as sex, kiss, real relationship, and we have been talking about kids alot i mean were both in college im 18 and he is 19 we would make great parents i think he is a wonderful man i love him with everything i think were ready for a kid because then we can start our family and were both ready i think
2007-01-15 15:58:44 · 42 answers · asked by beinginlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a lot of you are telling me how im too young but i have been through more in my life then any of you can understand, i mean everything i have is because of him, he has made me the person i am today, he has been there when i was kicked out because of skin color, he would call me and come visit me every time i was in the hospital he is always around he has what no man has, my heart he is a great man and loves me with everything, and i have lived my life, one i dont party, i dont drink, and i dont smoke, i have been watching kids since i was around the age of 13 so i know im ready and my bf feels he is ready too, he is always bring the subject of naming our kids and how our family will be
2007-01-15 16:21:23 · update #1
i think your ready and i think with time you will have one and make a great mother i hope you do
2007-01-16 14:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jaylynn's mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, if you have to ask strangers then you're not ready
Two, as a teacher, I say wait until you're both out of college and have a secure job and some savings...I've seen people quit school and end up at minimum wage jobs with bills overdue and rent overdue and soon living in their car with their kids.
Three, marriage first, children second, if you can't commit to a marriage then you're not ready to commit to a child.
Three Go to family planning center near you, get one of those training dolls that scream, fuss and all the things a real baby does and see how it goes. Lucky you, back in my day there was no such thing. Also try on the pregnant outfit...this isn't something you go in the store and an hour later you have and you can return in a week if you don't like it...it's a constant challenge and battles for 18 years.
Oh and one last thing, you think the terrible two's are bad what for the TERRIBLE TEENS.
2007-01-15 16:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you financially stable? Do you have health insurance? Don't have babies until you have money saved. Babies are very, very expensive! It costs a lot to be pregnant with all the doctor visits and your hospital stay. You may think you will have 9 months to save up, but what if there is a complication? I got put on bed rest at 6 months, so I had to quit my job AND I had over $25,000 worth of hospital bills BEFORE the baby was born. When she was finally delivered, that tacked on another $10,000. Thank God we had insurance. Enjoy being young and spending time together. Once you start having babies, your relationship will never be the same. It will still be good, but it will be different and you will not have the alone time you enjoy now and you won't be able to go out and run around. You will be staying home taking care of baby. Wait a few years and get some money in the bank and get your degree.
2007-01-15 16:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is great that you found the love of your life...But you are too young to have a baby...But you are not sure if this is going to be forever yet... You are not unable to do things adults as of over 21and over can do...There are plenty of things you both need to do that if there is a child involved wont let you do so...Hold off until the both of you have completed and conquered all you desire before you take on this big responsibility...Your relationship is not forever or is guaranteed but a child is forever and cant pawn it off on anyone... A kid is hard work and takes dedication than just saying we love each other and have done all our first.... This is not something that simple!!! think about it and please wait and finish your dreams that way when you do have a child you can give the everything you desired and then some!!!!
2007-01-15 16:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by DesiGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound like your mother, but honey you are too young to have a baby now. With you two being in school, it's going to be hard working, going to school, and taking care of a baby. I suggest that you wait until after school. It is easier said than done. I know..I've helped take care of babies, and it is not an easy job. Just think it over some more. A year is good time, but you two still are young and you don't know what's gonna happen. You could end up pregnant and he may decide that he doesn't want the baby again. I say give it some time...at least time for you two to grow a little bit more together.
2007-01-15 16:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a new mom at age 28 I hafta say please reconsider, you may want one and you may feel you are ready. But those cries at 3am, are a rude awakening. You are so young, and there is so much out there to try and do, and while my baby is my world and the best thing that ever happened to me, I admit sometimes I miss being able to just get up and go. You dont get days off when you have a baby, they dont care if you are sick or not. There is no sympathy when you are having a bad day or are exhausted. And unless you have a reliable baby sitter don't plan on going to the movies or out to dinner. I definitely say have a child with the man you love, just give it a while and live a little first. You are just getting to an age where you can spread your wings and learn who you are, and a baby changes who that is dramatically.
2007-01-15 16:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetheart,
Awww I have a little 5 month old. It's really hard. I'm 25 now and my bf is 26. I wanted a baby since I was about your age. My ex told me he didn't want kids or marriage with me and it was really hurtful. But even at my age, it's difficult.
I wish I would have things more organized to make it more enjoyable. My bf is currently in jail due to get out Feb. 22nd. So are you guys considering marriage? So does he want kids? Try to get a good job, a place, and make sure your relationship is solid as well and then go for it. It will make things that much easier. I love being a mom but the situation being a little sweeter can make all the difference.
Take care and good luck!
Connie and Layton
2007-01-15 16:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Connie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ready for endless dirty diapers? Worried to death about a sick baby? Not being able to just pick up and go to a movie at 8 at night because you felt like it? Ready for running after a toddler when you get home from work and only want to put your feet up? Ready for night after night of homework? Ready to be at the child's side for well over 10 years because they can't play outside alone? Ready to start saving now for the child's college education? Pay for diapers, formula that will cost you a small fortune? Still ready? At 18 you should be taking advantage of the fun times....it's at least 20 years until you'll see those days again and some of the things you'll never get to do again. Think long and hard about this.....you've got plenty of time for babies yet....enjoy the life you have now.
2007-01-15 16:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are still a whole lot of "firsts" that you haven't done! I think that you should both be out of college with nice paying jobs. Do you know how much it costs to raise a child? If you two are true solemates then you can wait because you will still be together. I thought I too was grown up at 18 but I wouldn't even recognize myself today. We mature as we grow older, so I would wait until you both are a little older. Good luck.
2007-01-15 16:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by ILOVELUCYFAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fantastic that you want to have a family and starting one at a young age can have advantages. Before you start trying, have a good think about your immediate future and goals and how a baby would affect them. Do you want to further your education? Do you want to travel? Do you want to experience some more time with your partner before having a child? Do you want to establish a career so that you have something under your belt when it is time for you to bring in money for the household? Have a good think and make a plan so that you can be confident of your future while you enjoy the trials and joys of motherhood. All the best of luck to you.
2007-01-15 16:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! ...The person you are now is NOT the person you will be 10 years from now, you have so much to accomplish before you take this step, I would advice you as someone who waited and have seen what has happened to many friends that didn't.
If you truly love each other he will still be there when your 25 except you'll be 7 years smarter, your education behind you, and you'll be at a point financially and emotionally light years ahead of where you are now.....please think about it.
2007-01-15 16:06:00 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋