what are my rights ?

Question

i need to know what are my rights in regards with my 11yr old daughter shes failing school .it has been requested she sign up for intense tutoring on saturdays.can i force her to go. she says she isnt going.can she do this.at the doctors she refuses vaccines .what are her rights? she refuses her meds n psychiatry appt. we will go but she refuses to say anything to him. i know you cant make a person do what theyre supposed to .are there laws that can make her do it? i need to know mine n her rights with this

Answer 1

Your daughter's rights are a roof over he head, food in her stomach and clotheson her back. Obviously she is extremely spoiled, as she has been allowed to get away with whatever she chooses.

Answer 2

I have to admit, I must question if this was not written by the 11 year old. Sorry if I am wrong, it is not meant as an insult, just an observation.
To address the issue of kids rights .... what rights? Can they vote, drive a car, rent an apartment or even get a job at 11? NO They are not emancipated, they are living under the guardianship of an adult. The adult is responsible for making sure they eat, go to school and have adequate shelter and clothing. The adult is legally mandated to provide medical treatment and prevent truancy from school. If you do not fulill these obligations, the adult goes to jail, the kid goes to foster care .... there is no option or grey area here.
So, can an 11 year old be forced to attend tutoring? Yes. You can bring her there whether she wants to go or not. Can you force her to learn anything?? No, ultimately what she chooses to do with her opportunities is up to her. Can you force her to be vaccinated? Yes. She is not of age and can not refuse anything against medical advise. Vaccinnes are also a prerequisite for admission to most US schools, with religious conflicts being the only way to sign a waiver.
As for the meds ... I doubt you can shove it down her mouth, legal or not. If the meds are required for her to function normally and she refuses them, you may need to consider having her committed. Yes, she can be hospitalized against her will. If this is simply a medication for ADHD and not life altering or threatening, you will likely have to think of alternative treatments.
Counseling ... Yes, you can make her go and sit there but no, you cannot pull a string and make her talk. My suggestion for that would be to explore family therapy. It may take some time to get through to her but she will eventually speak. You may also need to explore different therapists to find one that works for your family.

As a last resort, most states give you the option of relinquishing your parental rights and turning custody of the minor child over to the state. If the child is mentally ill, she will likely go into an institution for treatment before being placed into a group home.

I'm sure that you would not want to give up your parental rights but you need to understand that these are more than rights, they are responsibilities. Raising kids is very very hard work. They will push you to the very limits and then try and kick you over. In the end, they need you to stand strong against their assualts, give them the security of knowing the you will protect and love them. Get to her level, talk with her, not to her. Try speaking with teh teachers and counselors at her school, and make her a part of the plan to improve. Part of the road out of this is that she must trust you to be the parent and she must earn trust to have freedoms. An actively involved parent is a childs best advocate.

Answer 3

You should know this already. She's 11 for God's sake.

Your rights and responsibility is to do what's best for that child. Even if that means dragging her to wherever it is that she should be.

Her rights are to be safe, fed, housed and protected. Her responsibilities are to do what YOU say WHEN you say so.

You have the responsibility to take her to that tutoring. Do you want her to grow up behind everyone else???

Answer 4

Have you ever watched Dr.Phil or those kids discipline shows like Super Nanny..
They all suggest to get a stubborn child to do something, is to hold back on one of their rewards they like.. For example, if your daughter plays playstation. Jerk that thing out of the plug, lock it up in your closet, or better yet, sell it, put the money in a trust for her college fund. There is always some trigger around that by withholding it, will spur a child on..
Tell her if she feels she wont contribute to the welfare of the family as a whole, and she thinks she is going to make her own decisions. I wouldnt iron or wash her clothes for a week, Let her (especially girls) do it themselves.. If they have to show up in dirty clothes at school, they'll start moving. If she doesnt, let her go in filth. Sooner or later she'll move.. Dont invite her to meals. let her cook her own. If she realizes that she has to give to be able to take in your family, she will move eventually to start doing something. Just dont argue about it, Just politely withdraw somewhat..

Answer 5

Forget your rights, I might try a bit of tough love or some reverse psycology. Get her under control before any rights that you have as a parent will be useless. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 6

This happened to a kid in my little Illinois town. The boy convinced the Dad he didn't need it. Dad went to court and is now doing community service on the weekends. Boy goes now.

Answer 7

never ever force her to do sth, specially in educational things. definitely you know sth more and never your thinks will be match together, you gotta LET her learn with her own experience as "you did". and in the meds stuff you may better open some friendly attitude. you can show her your rights such as she has to do her asgn first in order to watch her favorite tv show or see her friends sth

Answer 8

Who's the adult, here ? It's scary, that you're losing a battle of wits to an eleven year old.

Please, no more !!!

Answer 9

what on earth do you do to this child to give her soooo much control at only 11 years old.

Answer 10

Sigh...another great parent.