My boyfriend of 3 years now tells me that his feelings had changed and he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. He recently turned 21 in Sept., and goes to the bars a lot now while I chill at home (I'm only 20). In Oct. I found out he was talking to this girl and he grew feelings for her. She was 16 but very pretty.. so i can see why he was tempted. After all that we started arguing a lot more bc i will always question him where he's at and what he's doing. I don't want him to be sneaking around. He did lie to me a few times and hide things from me. But now, were over that phase and he doesn't want nothing to do with her. He tells me that he only wants to be friends with her and never talked to her again. He tells me right now that he doesn't want to be in a relationship and that he just wants to be alone. We both still love each other very much and I just don't want to loose him. He says that he eventually wants to be with me in the end but can't do it right now.
2007-01-15 15:32:46 · 4 answers · asked by simply_complicated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is also stressing a lot with bills. I work now and I try to help him out. I just don't know what to do. He is making me stress very much bc I love him with all my heart. He says he doesn't want me to hate him either. I just want it to work but at the same time I know he just wants to be alone. Any suggestions?
2007-01-15 15:34:56 · update #1
it may be that both of you need to to take a break and look at
this for what it is, after 3 years things change, people change
and sometime you need to give each other the space to find
out what going on. he may be at that time of his life that he
need this. and the fact that you are both quite young has a
lot to do with. so just gve him the space that he need and
see where it goes.
2007-01-15 15:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space from you and your wallet. You are both young. Date around some. Unfortunately people change. Sometimes not for the better. I know you are in love, but love doesn't love anybody. It may be over. If it is, you will survive and love again. As long as you know you behaved honorably that should be some comfort to you.
2007-01-15 15:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in other words, he wants permission to break up so he can see other people (16 year olds are jailbait, in case you didn't know - bust him) and then keep you waiting til he scr**s that up and you take him back. You're a sucker if you even think about letting him. The guy's a punk - besides, his money issues are his problem - scr** him and his bills. Find someone else who deserves you. :)
2007-01-15 15:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by lovestruck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him, you wouldn't have to question him. You'd trust him. If he loved you, he wouldn't be out at bars all the time, he'd spend time doing something with you instead. If he can't be there for you now, he doesn't love you. At least, that's my take on it. You're young (20) and have your life ahead of you. You may be alone for a while, but I'd recommend just walkin' out on it and letting him be. You know what they say about love comin' back if it's meant.
2007-01-15 15:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋