how do i let go?

Question

i am an angry person, and i get picked on by some people just so they can see me get mad, like they get a thrill from it, i even had this guy plan out where he would poke my ribs until i started punching him, and his friend taped it on his cell phone! how do i let go of my rage? is there anyone who can help me who has attended anger management.

do words like woosa really help?

Answer 1

STFU BAMBI!

JK!

I have dealt with that and ummmmmm if people are F'ing with you then you have every right to be angry! Tell them to stop! I'd be angry if someone was poikng me in the ribs to. Check out your diet. Maybe to much caffeine or somethin.

Answer 2

I didn't ever have anger management, but I went through things like that in junior high and high school. People would antagonize me simply because I made a good target, I guess. I got called things, pushed/kicked around, and they would just mess with me in general. They even kept telling me a girl I had a crush on did really like me even though she didn't. Talk about something hurtful. Some people get depressed. Some people bring a shotgun (what a shame). But the best thing you can do is try to get above it all. I know that is hard, and I used to want to tell people to shut up when they told me that. However, if you take pride in who you are, and the fact that you don't act like those who hurt you, you will eventually come out on top. Keep in mind that no one else is better than you, especially someone who wants to hurt you.

Answer 3

I'm wondering why you choose to carry the burden of anger to begin with. It sounds like you may have other issues that are troubling you and your friends tease you because they see the way you feel and don't know how to react . They have no way of understanding where it's coming from or why.On a positive note .... an angry person is not easy to be around so if they are still there they must care. You need to ask yourself some questions and figure out why you feel the way you do so you can let it go. If you can't do it alone then look for someone you can trust to help you work through it. One truth I know and that is .... young or old .... life is worth too much to go throught it blinded by anger. Paint your life in beautiful colors .... don't limit yourself to walk through it in black and white .....

Answer 4

I wish I knew the answer to this, myself. The closest thing I can think of, is to remember God's warning in the Bible:
A quick-tempered man does foolis things, and a crafty man is hated. The simple inherit the folly, but the prudent are crowned with knowledge.

Answer 5

Assert yourself...tell them to stop...get away from the source...make the source stop...these are your options to deal with people who do things in which you choose a response. Anger is the emotion that tags along....to drop the rage tell yourself a different story about the scenario...one that tells you how pathetic these people are and how they deserve your pity...choose another emotion on purpose...it takes time but try it.

Answer 6

I used to be the same way...I didnt talk to the people who were doing things on purpose just to make me mad for a couple of days and wen they confronted me about them being ignored i told them..."you guys treat me like your form of entertainment...i rather hang out with people who just want to hang out with me instead of being treated like a side show". Some of them got the hint and stopped, and some of them didnt. The ones who didnt I just stopped talking to and hanging out with. You have to let them all know that you are aware of the fact that you are short-tempered and that it isnt something to poke fun or laugh at. Its flat out mean of them to do that to you. Make them know that it makes you upset and hurts your feelings that they do that because it really isnt right for them to do it. The ones who really care about u will feel bad and even apologize and 95% chance they will never do it again...and the hell with the other 5% who wont stop...just be prepared that a few people will probably even laugh at or say something to you while your confronting them about it just to see you flip out again, just say "u know wut, forget it im not even gonna bother..." and hang up on them or walk away

Answer 7

The first thing you need to do is realize you have an anger issue, so you are are one step into the process. Good for you for being able to acknowledge this about yourself !! The next thing you really need to do is figure out what in your life is making you so angry and deal with those issues specifically whether through councelling, self help reading, confronting source of problem, etc., however it is you can deal with those issues most effectively. As for allowing people to pick at you to anger you, I would continue to be kind to that person, man someone trying to provoke you hates it when you flood them with kindness, it takes the fun out of it for them and they look like the fool in the end not you. Not only do they look like the fool , but you walk away feeling good because you didn't get angered to the point of physical violence...cause let's face it none of feel good about ourselves when we allow ourselves to get angered to the point we go into a physical tyrade. It also proves to you that you do have control, that leaves you feeling good, instead of angry withyourself for getting to angry and so forth. It's not always so easy at first but the more you practice responding by being polite and kind it does get easier, and you will realize more problems are resolved through kindness and being polite than get solved by getting angry, hitting, or yelling. I too had serious anger issues ... until I had a friend reach out and teach me about love, friendship and respect for myself and for others. If you are in a situation where you can throw the aggressions into something you are passionate about such as sports, music, writing, painting, etc., allow the energy you would spend hitting or yelling or whatever you do with during this rage, to be channeled to something that brings you pleasure and allows you to feel good about you ... when you allow someone to anger you, not only have they beaten you, but you have lost to yourself, because you have allowed yourself to respond in a fashion that leaves you feeling miserable in the end, and feeling ashamed. If people are just being ignorant and your polite requests, "please stop poking my ribs" are not adhered to be the bigger person walk away from the childish behavior, or take responsible/appropriate actions to have it stopped. Who looks like the fool then, the one with the maturity to stay polite, calm and collected, or the one who continues annoying behavior despite repeated requests to please stop, and is eventually left alone because they are acting like a child? You are ultimately in control on how you respond to external stimuli, you just need to decide to take that control of emotion instead of allowing it to control you. I was tough when I was younger, mad and mean! It took some effort to swollow my pride of being able to kick someone's rear when they did what I didn't want them to, but as I swollowed that bad girl image I began to walk a little prouder, stand a little taller, smiled alot more, and found alot more positive people and opportunities come my direction. You've recognized the problem, you recognized that you do not like the way losing you temper makes you feel in the end, now you just need to practice what you want to do ...be kind and polite, walk away from situations where you are made uncomfortable. It will come with time and it gets easier with practice, and I give you my word you will feel much better about yourself. Email me if I can help you farther, I certainly hope this has helped...I do understand I've been there, today people cannot believe I ever had anger issues, cannot believe I have ever had a mean bone in my body. Oh it's there, just I channel it in directions to build me up rather than tear me down, why should I help an idiot beat me up, right? Good luck on your self-improvement journey.

Answer 8

Mentally write it on a piece of paper and wrap it around a potato.

drop it like its hot

Answer 9

i havent attended but get a big lifesized doll and tare it to shreds it ll take the anger away.

Answer 10

Yea.... Rise above it. If you hit a brick wall, you will only be hurting your hand.