Im 13 and im having sex already isnt that way to young? i wanted to wait till 18 but i met this guy and he said he loved me and all that stuff boys say to get in a girls pants.so we ended up having sex more than 10 times in the last month.
2007-01-15 15:20:43 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask that question then deep inside you already know what the answer is. It's not too late to start over and wait until you're sure. It's your life sweetie.
Don't forget about all the sexually transmitted diseases out there and possible pregnancy. Think about it.
2007-01-15 15:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you listen to us if we all said that you're too young? So far you've had 39 people tell you it's too young but apparently you're not planning to listen. You know you're too young.
Let me ask you this:
Are you ready to raise a baby? Think about this now, a baby is a 24 hour responsibility. Feeding, changing, holding, worrying, not sleeping and that's before he or she can walk. After that it's even more responsibility. Do you like going to school, to movies, to the mall, talking on the phone, watching TV, playing on the computer? If so, pregnancy will end all those things for you. You won't have time to do any of the things a girl of your age loves to do.
Are you ready to contact a sexually transmitted disease? Did the boy you're having sex with use a condom?
Are you ready to give up your entire life? The decision you made to have sex could literally end your life as you know it. Pregnancy, reproduction/life threatening diseases will change your life faster then you can even imagine.
It is not too late to stop having sex. When you are old enough to except the responsibilities I've listed above, then you're old enough to have sex.
2007-01-15 15:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...YES it is TOO young. I would imagine this boy cares for you or it would have been over after the first time, but you need to realize that everything FEELS like "love" at that age. The fact is that you are too young to know much about life or what REAL love is yet. Hormones are out of control right now for you and I will tell you honestly, I think it will be BETTER after you are older. It can't feel that good, but when you are older and know who you are and what you're all about, then it can be a wonderful thing shared between two mature people who love each other VERY much and can handle a real relationship. If this boy really cares about you, then if you tell him you don't want to anymore, he will still care about you. Just tell him it isn't the right time and you aren't ready yet. If he skips out, then you know and when you are ready you will find someone DEFINITELY worth being with. Hope this helps :)
2007-01-15 15:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by lovestruck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 13 in my opinion is too young to be "sexuarlly" active.
You can't possibly have anything even close to a serious relationship at that age and yes you are correct, a boy will tell you anything to get what he wants from you.
I'm assuming your parents don't know you're having sex, which also leads me to assume that you aren't on birth control and may not be using protection.
My advice to you is to refrain from having sex until you are older, the risk is not worth it. It is far better to wait.
If you feel the need to continue having sex, at least take responsibility for your actions by taking some form of birth control, although nothing is 100% effective against preventing pregnancy except abstinence.
2007-01-15 15:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already had sex "10 times in the last month", this is too late to be asking such questions. The fact that you ask tells me that you think it is, so you really need to ask yourself the real reason for 'doing it'...you should NEVER feel like your partner is pressuring you to have sex, regardless of your age. BTW, in most states, this is consider statutory rape...especially if the guy in question is older than you are. Find someone to talk to about this, and, BY ALL MEANS, don't feel that just because you have been having sex, you HAVE TO continue. Last but not least, ALWAYS use precautions to protect yourself against pregnancy and disease. This doesn't mean that I approve...but reconsider what it is you are doing, please...good luck!
2007-01-15 15:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rev Debi Brady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 of course it is, what happens if you get pregnant, or you get some kinda HIV, if you are using condoms dont forget you still can get lice. i really think that 16 or 18 might be best, you got the whole world to discover, why sex? why not get a good education, travel, get a good job, i know that this might sound boring, but if you do get pregnant or catch a disease then you are really stuffed then aint you....but it really all comes down to you, its your body and if you want to grow up fast well go with what you think is right, but just think about it if my daughter was having sex at that age it will break my heart, and just wait until you have children as you will one day be responsiable for your daughter as well.
2007-01-15 15:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A psychologist friend of mine told me that under the age of 16 is too young.....because although you know what sex is and how to do it, you can't fully comprehend the complete picture and all it involves emotionally. Guard your heart, don't ever mistake sex for love.....love includes much more than just doing it. If sex makes you uncomfortable then stop having it....the choice is yours and never feel pressured because a guy says he loves you....you don't owe anyone sex for any reason. If you do decide to continue, always ALWAYS practice safe sex.
2007-01-15 15:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's too young, but I don't think it's too late for you to change. And you sound so smart to know that sometimes boys say things to have their way. You have to honor yourself and remember that YOU ARE special and you need to save something that is so private for that boy who is going to be the one to love you for the rest of your life. Whenever this other guy try's to convince to do what you know in your heart is wrong, think about your future husband and that he is waiting out there to meet you someday and how proud he would be if you saved that sort of thing for him. If you want to know if a boy really cares about you, than don't have sex. Only the ones that really love you, will continue to care about you no matter what!!
2007-01-15 15:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes 13 is way too young to be having sex. You need to make sure you are having ( I hope ) safe sex and then tell your friend you want to wait till you are older and more mature.
2007-01-15 15:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is way too young to have any type of relationship, especially one in sexual nature. You have been taken advantage of by this guy and hopefully your parents will find out and put this guy into for jail for statutory rape of their daughter. You are not mentally mature enough to be making decisions of this nature. You should be worrying about getting your own cell phone, and if you are wearing your make up correctly right now, not sex!
Dump him and call the cops. He deserves whatever he gets in this situation. Shame on him for taking advantage of you.
2007-01-15 15:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋