Maybe it's stupid. i'm 21 but acting like a little kid. i've been with this guy for three months and we (mostly he) decided to become just friends. well, we still slept together after that but then i called him twice the other week and then decided that i won't call him anymoe, if he wants he'll call. well...he's not calling. i miss him but know that if we should just be friends it's probably the best for me that i don't talk to him. i really would like to hear from him though. should i just call him. wuld i be forcing myself on him?
2007-01-15 15:10:30 · 20 answers · asked by maya 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not forcing yourself but being too available. That's just as bad though because now he thinks whenever he wants he can just call you and you'll jump through hoops for him. Distance is what you and him both need. If your always hanging out with a guy that's not that into you, how will you meet the guy that is?
2007-01-15 15:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find some girls to hang out with to get him off your mind. Talk to some nice guy at the bar. Make a game with your friends to see who can get the most numbers. Just have fun. If you only dated this guy for 3 months, it's nothing seriously that you can't move on. And for the whole sleeping with him after you were broken up, bad move...I know some of my friends slept with their exs just to see if they would get back with them. It doesn't work. Guys just like sex. And for the whole calling him ordeal. I suggested you just don't call him. It's probably going to take some time to become friends. And if he calls you for a booty call, don't take it...it'll just put you back in this situation.
Move on, have fun while you're young.
2007-01-15 23:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get over him. If you call hes only going to play your mind and heart to get another time with you in bed. You should never be 'friends' with a guy and then do things that should be done with a partner, the guy will always take 'Friends with Benefits' over having a girlfriend. You can do better than him anyway so just get over him and let him realise what he missed out on!!
2007-01-15 23:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he just wants to be friends then you should let it go for some while and start dating some other guys then may be he will realize that he also misses you and will come back to you if not then find yourself a new friend who is as caring as he was or may be more, but again things are not that easy,we cant let go of a person that we r fond of and it hurts a lot(believe me), n e ways
try once calling him and tell him things clearly the get his opinion,
and if he still ain't interested then get over him, that is best for you in my opinion, but ultimately it is in your hands what you wanna do, but before you do any thing just remember that you should not be hurt by it because a scar in the heart never fades,
bye,
2007-01-15 23:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by hdil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am growing through the exact same thing! I know how you feel you dont wont to seem press on him! I havent called my guy back either! I would say call him in like a few days and just talk to him or wait untill he call! Matter of fact just call and tell me what happens and maybe i call my guy! You just nervous right now and your not alone!
2007-01-15 23:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by Player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all, stop sleeping with him because you obviously still like him and you are going to get hurt.
secondly, it might be a good idea to give him space and not call him. Honestly, i know you want to hear from him but its only going to make you sad cause you;re no longer in a relationship
try to move on, meet new guys and have fun.... if you stay friends with him, its going to be an emotional rollarcoaster
2007-01-15 23:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Bo B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to what you have decided about not calling him anymore-if i was in your situation if he only wants to be just friends i will let him go and move on, it would be a great waste of time to even think about him, worse youre being immature for the wrong reasons.
word of advice, dont call him, dont sell your self short, let things go into their natural course
2007-01-15 23:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i think it depends on what kind a guy he is, like does he really want to be ur friend or does he just wanna sleep with u on random ocasions.
eitherway if u can ring him and just have a general conversasion and he doesnt seem bored by it then its all good i think
2007-01-15 23:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him
2007-01-15 23:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by yrsong19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on honey, he obviously isnt interested. adn if he does want to coninue the "friends with benefits" thing, just let him go he doesnt seem worth the heartache and pain. take care and good luck.
2007-01-15 23:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋