so i think my girlfriend wants to break up becuase she has changed all of her stuff on myspace and im not even on her top 8. i want to know how i should go about asking her if she wants to break up and if so how should i go about doing it. thanks
2007-01-15 15:00:50 · 15 answers · asked by superstuddly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She may not want to break up but she might be seeing other guys..
By moving your picture from her top makes it look to others like she is single..
2007-01-15 15:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mark B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visual cues, and not really something she writes or says, unless if there's strong message. Example, "I want to break up," she says. Of course, she's not going to tell you directly even if you ask (until it's too late), so rely on these visual cues...
1) She is inconsistent with her actions.
2) She is different from before, or how she always was since the beginning of the relationship. Example: She used to give you back rubs all the time, and now, she doesn't want to really do anything except watch TV when she's with you.
3) She doesn't appear interested in you, but always something else. Example: She talks to her cell phone more than you, she makes excuses not to come to a date, and she doesn't see you often (doesn't want to).
4) Both of you argue alot. You know that when you argue about every little thing, she is more interested in winning fights than winning love.
2007-01-15 23:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by DN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah thats kinda a big deal if she changed her top 8 and u r not on it....but b4 assuming she wants to break up ....take a look at her top 8...if all the people on her top 8 are her family or whatnot then its ok....but at same time its weird for her not to have u on her top 8.....my bf is my #1......but what I would do is say "hey I noticed u changed ur top 8 on myspace.....and I am not on it so I am wonderin whats up"...that way u are not accusing her becuz she might have a good explanation....and just take it from there.....good luck! I wish u the best!
2007-01-15 23:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Just Wondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety where is your self confidence? So what she took you off her top 8!! Are you the man or not? Dont even question it keep the ball in your court!! Take her off your top 8 and act like nothin has changed!! And if she starts to show signs that she wants to break up indefinite dump her first and move on its just that simple!!
2007-01-15 23:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by yousexythangyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a song that's entitled F
"Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover" . So, all that suggests break up. But, seriously, maybe you can write your girlfriend a nice letter and tell her about your fears. If she is showing body languange or signs that she no longer cares about you, maybe she doesn't have to have a formal declaration of your split. And then you can just move on and go separate ways, Some things are better left unsaid.
2007-01-15 23:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by chelsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much of a girlfriend if you aren't even on her top 8. Looks like you got deep sixed instead! Be the man and just break it off with her first.
2007-01-15 23:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although im not a specialist, it seems that she might need space. Maybe she is just trying to give you a few hints that maybe it just isn't working out between you two. Have a discussion with her and talk to her about why things have changed so suddenly. It might be a simple misunderstanding of whats happening in her life. Talking about the issue always helps.
2007-01-15 23:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Joey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gf doesn't mention having a bf on myspace or it says she's seeking a relationship, i'd worry. the BEST thing to do is talk to her and be upfront so u won't have any misunderstandings. does she avoid you or has she acted differently? don't be afraid to take a backseat and give her space before u go off emotionally. be calm and hear what she has to say. let her come around and be there, time will give u that answer.
2007-01-15 23:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have noticed a recent change in her behavior and tell her the things you have noticed then ask her if she is still interested in continuing the relationship or if she would rather be friends.
Be sure to prepare yourself mentally for the break up first so you don't get your feelings hurt, Also, assure her that you are still interested (if you are) just incase it's nothing.
2007-01-15 23:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask yourself why.
It is either another man, or you have not done what she wants.
Try catering to her needs more. Show her what she means to you. What investments are you willing to make to keep her?
If you try to approach her with a question about your relationship, she will throw it in your face whether she wants you or not.
Most women will never allow a man to take charge in a relationship. They control their top 8, not you.
2007-01-15 23:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋