How do I take my boyfriend's honest opinion of me without feeling hurt?

Question

I want to be able to ask my boyfriend what his honest opinion is of me, but I have a feeling that maybe I might not be able to stomach it. I know I'll ask anyways, but how do I deal with the feeling of being inadequate, if thats the way you would put? How do I accept his opinion which has a chance to be damaging to my feelings? I know it may be "just an opinion" but his opinion counts to me.

Answer 1

you need to have a higher self esteem, if he doesn't like something about you then that's too bad. he should accept you the way you are. anything he says just don't take too personally. everyone has different opinions, but what you think about yourself really matters.

Answer 2

look don't punish your boyfriend with these questions. It only makes you look insecure. It sounds like you already know what he would tell you otherwise you wouldn't be preparing yourself for something bad. Just go based on that and don't ask him. Find some way to accept these things about yourself and move on. Everyone has imperfections but you really don't want to draw your boyfriends attention to them either. Just be happy he is with you and enjoy each other and work out those things on your own. Not everything needs to be shared.

Answer 3

Honesty can hurt at times. So either take it and accept it, and try to better yourself if possible, or don't ask for an honest opinion at all.

Answer 4

If you want an honest opinion you have to prepare yourself to hear something unpleasant .

Answer 5

hmmm.... do the same thing to him. whether he wants to hear it or not but he'll know how it feels like and you'll feel better too.

Answer 6

DON'T ASK WHAT YOU CAN'T HANDLE.