I earlier asked a similar question, but wanted to clarify. I am 45 years old with a son who is 11 living at home. My son was abandoned by his father 3 years ago and he has not seen or heard from him since (nor have I, hence the divorce). I have older daughters who live on their own.
I work a full-time + job and am limited with the amount of time I have to meet men. I just want to try to concentrate my efforts in a place that might be the most fruitful without going to bars.
I also belong to a church with an older population, so that really isn't an option either. I am an independent woman, so I am not looking for someone who is trying to find a mother for themselves or someone to support them. I prefer someone who is equally independent and would like to go to a movie occasionally or to dinner, and who won't exclude my son.
Where are good places for people like me to look for a companion (or more)?
2007-01-15 14:51:08 · 16 answers · asked by daddysnurse 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would suggest getting out as much as you possibly can. If you go to places that you enjoy (maybe bring your son with you!), then you and your son can "scope" out guys that go to the same places. If anything, it would be fun for your son trying to scope out guys for you. Maybe ask him to pick one out (look for the ring on the left hand), and if you find him attractive and nice looking, go up to him and talk to him! Maybe your son will be more opt to liking a guy that you date if he picks him out for you in some way...
Also try an internet dating service. I know this sounds a little bit on the immature and too pre-determined side, but I know a lot of people it has worked for... well, one couple is getting married, two other couples are still dating.
Keep in mind that it has only been three years, and that is not a long time. You are also very young still, so you have a lot of time to try to find someone... Think of it this way: You have spent much less than 45 years with one man (or more), and you have MORE than 45 years to spend with another. You have so much time to find someone. Don't rush, but do what you can to make it happen!
Good luck! :)
2007-01-15 15:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online dating is a good place to find people to talk to but the statistics show that very few serious relationships are yet to start there. However, a companion and more could be found there and just talking and seeing some people will be good for ya. eHarmony.com is a great site except that it is expensive and doesnt limit your search to the state you are in....so I would start with the free sites like yahoo personals or match.com. Screen out the losers and start talking to some of the good ones. Eventually you can go to a movie or dinner and at least make a friend. Friends will spawn more dates and you will find someone for a mature relationship in time. Good luck!
2007-01-15 15:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a strong believer in GOD. HE can assist with this task better than anyone else that you can meet here. If you are attending a Church then maybe you need to look at another Church in or around your area. It is possible that there is another Church in your area with some younger men that need to be introduced to you. HE can lead you in the right direction if you only pray for HIS guidance. I hope that this makes some sense and you will take this as a sign from HIM. Have a great week.
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2007-01-15 14:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont like the pubs or clubs myself and was looking for someone similar to you (i have children grown and left home) so i really did not want any more ---- but i went to the adult dating sites and while the advertising says one thing the reality is another --- there are some guys looking for a stable long term relationship as well a jerks only looking for sex
thats where i found my lady --- very nice actually chaste but nothing like i thought i wanted
2007-01-15 14:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know any friends that can fix you up with some one? It seems lately people use dating sites on the internet to meet people. I wish I could help you but thats all I can think of.
2007-01-15 14:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Movies, beach, parks, anywhere a guy would hang out really. But let them know you are available, with out saying you are desprate or some other negative thought. Be yourself in the places you like to hang out. Malls, anywhere really. Main thing is be yourself.
2007-01-15 14:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jack P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on what type of man you want. stay a way from bar scenes and dating services. exp on line. i would say a park ,library or even a social even such as a fair. that way you can study a person from a distance before making a decision.
2007-01-15 15:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your post sounds like an online dating ad. You'd probably do well at it. I don't believe in that crap myself. I go out to where there are men and strike up a conversation with one.
2007-01-15 14:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you interested in? If you enjot art, go to the art museum and see what is happening there. You are right in not going to the bars. You will only meet losers there.
2007-01-15 14:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
internet dating. go to bars where adults hang out, not young kids. but if ur a milf then young guys will chase u to, and im sure you wouldnt mind. im 21, but id still come over to ur place and give u a back massage and make u feel like ur 18 again.
2007-01-15 14:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by beach_babe971 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋