i just asked a question about having a 18 month old 7 month old and being pregnant again which was as accident i was on birth control anyway nobodys bussiness somebody said people think your trashy why is that i dont understand so if you have 3 kids your trash are you?
2007-01-15 14:47:07 · 40 answers · asked by nomorebabieshaha 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
im definatly not from a trashy background my husband earns really good money he has a trade we own our own house and car
2007-01-15 15:04:17 · update #1
and i am 28 and a midwife and yes i am married and yes my babies all have the same dad
2007-01-15 15:09:02 · update #2
It depends on how old you are. If you're 20 and single, then yeah, that's probably trashy. If they aren't for the same man, that's possibly trashy. It all depends on the specifics. But somehow I suspect that you're young, and these kids aren't for the same man, and you aren't married to any of the fathers of the children.
If you are married, and not on any kind of public assistance, then I don't think it's anyone's concern besides yours and your husband's. Good night!
2007-01-15 14:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn't call my own mother trashy. There are 5 siblings in my family. My brother and I are 1 year and 1 day apart. I almost got a little brother for my 1st birthday.
Plus I have three sons of my own now and I wouldn't consider myself as trashy. I wish my kids were closer together they are 26,17 and 10. This is just how it worked out and I never used birth control and yes I am married to the same man for all of them.
Congrats on your new addition.
2007-01-15 14:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good friend of mine has 2 young children, 2 1/2 and 11 months and is TRYING for a 3rd now. It doesn't mean you are trashy, it means you are strong. And you're right, it shouldn't matter that it was an accident, nobody should care how it happened because it shouldn't be a big deal. I say good for you for going through with it, would they rather you terminate your pregnancy? Then would not be considered trash for going out getting pregnant and not taking responsibility? People need to mind their own business!
2007-01-15 14:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think i answered ur other question as well i hav a 3yr old,2yr old and am trying again i get plenty of looks and can only imagine what is said behind my back but at the end of the day if your happy why should it matter what other people think being a mother is the most rewarding job in the world nobody can give you the love that a child does.so to those ppl who do think its trashy mayb you should look at it again as it is not trash that you see but a determined strong willed family.god bless you enjoy your children and ignore those who wouldnt understand a challenge if it bit them i think you are a strong woman who can handle any situation
2007-01-15 14:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by tamara0405 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People will think what they want. Dont let anyone make you feel bad. There miles away sitting behind a computer judging someone they dont know. Just because you have 3 young kids does not mean your trashy and its no ones business but yours on why they are so young.
2007-01-15 15:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends....If you have 3 kids all close in age, your trailer is filthy and they play in the ditch yelling f you as cars drive by and you don't remember the names of all the fathers without asking, yes that is trashy.
If you have a clean house, can afford diapers, formula and manage.
It happens, birth control fails. If anyone hassles you about birth control just tell them yes you are using a condom but maybe they could give you two a hand in putting it on next time. Shuts them up every time.
2007-01-15 15:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by christina k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three kids. They are 16, 14 and 9. While the teens are challenging to be sure but they are all that I have to show for a life in other ways misspent. It is with all humility that I suggest that those who would brand people with children as anything less than blessed are not fit to carry my poor white trash.
2007-01-15 14:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by Goofy Foot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that makes you trashy. Then again, I try not to pay attention to people who spew stereotypes left and right. Most of the time they are talking out their @$$.
When my twins were born when I was 22. That made 4 kids for me. Ages 3, 2, and newborn twins. And yes, with the same man, my husband.
2007-01-15 16:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only ones I consider trashy are the ones who act totally surprised with every pregnancy, expect tons of attention for it, can't afford their kids and they're always dirty. I know a family like this - 5 kids under age 8. It seems like every time I ask "How are you doing?" She rolls her eyes and says "Pregnant again!" Now that's trash! (They work at Wal-Mart and live in a basement.)
2007-01-15 15:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only opinion that matters is the opinion you have.
But you would only be viewed as trashy if you were on public assistance and having one kid after another. Otherwise if you are providing a good home and a loving family and stable income then you would not be.
2007-01-15 14:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by logan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋