please i really need help.
I dated a guy for 4 years.. everyone said we wouldn't even last a week b/c he was a player. but i "changed" him and made him fall inlove people said.
He moved and we finally broke up. I cried and never had a smile on my face for almost 2 months.
Month later he tries to come back cuz him and his new girl broke up and I said no because he broke my heart so bad.
He tried again and I wanted to so bad but all I did was yell at him and he left for good again.
4 days ago he came back; and I REALLY wanted to get back together. i had everything planned out. Well.. it didn't happen the way I thought it would. He's like umm.. I haven't even talked to you in like a year now.. I think we should get to know each other again I changed a lot.
I broke out crying. I couldnt believe that had happened.
We talked the next day, nothing special.
Yesterday I yelled at him b/c he just really made me mad.
2day, no sign of him.
Ive been crying since it happened. what do i do?!?
2007-01-15 14:35:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this from experience.........you are the type of girl, that if you let him in again...he will use you for nothing else but sex, get what he wants, give just enough to make you believe he will not leave, and leave anyway, after you giving in to his every desire...........dump his sorry *** and move on......quit being a turd and just move on....there are other guys out there who will treat you way better than a rubber....and if you keep going back to this guy, that's all you are to him...a rubber........something to put over his dick until he has had his fill........leave the loser and find a winner.......find someone who will love you for who you are. i believe in you, and i know you are able to get out and find a really good guy....
2007-01-15 14:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you yell at him if you want to get back together with him? Do you think yelling at him will make him enjoy your company? I think if you have an opportunity to get back together with him again you should take it if that's what you want. Otherwise maybe it's time to move on. Believe it or not there are other guys out there; sometimes it just takes a little searching to find him.
I've done the same thing, but only with women. I would pursue a girl who wasn't interested and missed out on quality women who were interested. Life is too short not to move on. Good luck!
2007-01-15 22:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Qrious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you should both go your separate ways, but try not to cut all ties to him. I recently came out of a three-year relationship, partially because she moved away and partially because it was just time, I felt. That's very important about feeling love for someone: knowing when to hold your tightest, and when to let go. It seems that you'll be better off moving on and always being able to look back on those perfect memories when you two were together instead of having them tainted by recent experiences that might end up as "nothing special." But you should do what you feel is right.
2007-01-15 22:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by ghostface30612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still a player but he is a player who expected you to take him back without reservations perhaps. He is right that you should get to know each other after such a long time but do not sit and wiat but look at others around you as well. Think of yourself as a gold mine that takes a lot of work to get anything valuable, and he is not the only miner!! If he is not willing to do the work to get you back find someone else who thinks you are worth the work.
2007-01-15 22:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard but you really need to move on....this guy i dated a long time ago started calling me after 5 years and said that he was still in love with me :0 i was like uhhh noo you can't be i'm not the same person....and its true people change and i think both of you have and you should find someone new. good luck!
2007-01-15 22:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by celina m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a guy and fast... You are only going to this guy because you feel vulnerable without him. And he's going to keep coming to you and breaking your heart in the future. And you will feel helpless and you will be crying the rest of your life if you keep letting me come to you. Just ignore him next time and keep telling yourself "I don't need a guy like him, I can find better people..." Please ignore the guy and you will have a better life.
2007-01-15 22:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by epooji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have begun getting on with your life and I hope you can stay strong. I would so hate to see you give your heart to him again, just to have it broken. The right person is out there waiting for you, and you're not going to find him while you're wasting your life with this guy. Stay strong. Look out for #1. I'm pulling for you!
2007-01-15 22:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by flamingo_sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're a WRECK! No wonder this guy is tentative about being with you! You are emotionally immature and need some serious counseling. Work on yourself FIRST before offering yourself up to be someone's girl!
2007-01-15 22:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thing is. in a year, surely everything will change. i am sure that things will be different. your dreams are usually different in reality especially when it comes to relationships. :)
you two are playing with the idea of getting back together. bt that relationship that you two once had is gone and done with. :)
2007-01-15 22:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to work out what YOU really want and stop playing games just tell him what u want and ask what he wants if it is the same good luck to ya's if not move on
2007-01-15 22:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by KYE_81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋