WHY do i get so nervous?

Question

Why do i get nervous about everything?
i honestly dont get it. i get nervous about talking in front of the class but like i kno i shouldnt be nervous but i am. i get nervous for basketball games,softball games. I dont know whats in my. my mom said its normal to be nervous like that but its to the point where i get(diarea) every time i get nervous. and i get nervous about stupid things all the time!
i have a speech to read infront of the class in 2 days. and i've been nervous for like 5 days. somethings wrong with my nervous system. my friends aren't like this. Its not seomthing that EVERY1 gets becuase its been like this for 4 years i'd say? i will just get sick and sick but i kno its something that i can ace!
what do u think?

Answer 1

You need to develop a sense of humor.

Answer 2

It's normal to be a little nervous when you have to do something for the first time. Usually after you have done something a few times you become more comfortable because you know what to expect. I can remember getting a very nervous feeling when I was in my early teens. I hated that feeling. So I know what you are talking about. Some very famous singers have said that every time they had to give a live performance they would get so nervous that they would be sick to their stomach.You are just experiencing a lot of different things right now and as you get a little older and have more experiences you will be less and less nervous. So, take some deep breaths and just try to calm yourself down a little.

Answer 3

Sounds like social anxiety. It's pretty common. I used to have real issues with it as well. Some people call it being "shy"... others call it anxiety. You can either talk to a counselor about how to better handle your fears, or you can just tough it out... which is sometimes very hard on the system. I remember my stomach used to feel knotted and I would sweat and my heart would start racing... it sucked. I would avoid things, social activities and dates, etc. because I was so nervous about it all... and that made me end up feeling quite depressed. So, I say it's best to deal with it now.

Don't worry... it's not a big deal. A lot of people feel this way. But, believe me, I completely understand how frustrating is it and how lonely it makes one feel. It can take a serious toll on your self-esteem. Just talk to a counselor. Behavioral therapy... basically making yourself handle the feelings in a different way can really help.

I also bought that DVD course... "Attacking Anxiety and Depression" by Lucinda Bassett and it was a good first step. It provides various techniques that can help you to prevent your body from reacting the way that it does. It helps you to turn your negative and nervous energy into productive and beneficial energy. Here is the link to the site. It's expensive but I found the techniques helpful.

http://www.stresscenter.com/

Best wishes!

Answer 4

Being nervous is a normal thing for certain situations, such as speaking in front of a group, but if the nervousness interferes with other areas of your life then it could be an anxiety disorder. You should talk to your doctor if it's making things tough on you. He'll probably prescribe an anti-anxiety pill. It's really no big deal (as in seriousness, I'm sure it's a big deal to you) and many people suffer from anxiety.

Answer 5

Your mother is right. Everyone gets nervous. Some show it differently, others may not admit it. You are young. The more experience you get doing these things, the less nervous you'll be. The best thing you can do is bravely face your fears and put yourself in a position to face them again and again. You'll get bored with them eventually!

Promise. Everyone gets nervous. Ther is nothing wrong with you. Now forge ahead!!!

Answer 6

Sounds like normal performance anxiety to me, but you can have control over how much it affects you.

Try facing it by thinking of the worst things that can happen in each situation, and realize that you'll survive each of them. No possible consequence in any of the areas you mentioned is going to be the end of your world.

Something in your mind is telling you that each situation is a matter of life and death. That thing is wrong. Tell it so. Repeatedly. Eventually, you'll stop hearing that inner voice if you remember to contradict it every time.

Answer 7

That sucks*......but as you said You KNOW you can do this.....but no one likes to stand up infront of the class for a speech..I'm the same way. I dont get nervous to the point where im in the bathroom mind you.......but i do feel sick to my stomach with nerves for weeks before hand......then once iv'e done it...i'm so relieved*
Try to drink some tea to calm your stress level and just go for it* GoodLUck*

Answer 8

i always get nervous especially about everything. for example. if i have to speak in front of people and like stuff. but the reason you get nervous is because you are always in front of strangers that you dont really know.

Answer 9

you just mite b the type of person who has doubts about themselves and therefore gets nervous about everything. try taking a couple deep breaths when u get nervous and not looking at the people

Answer 10

same here. my stomache gets upset. try this stuff called rescue remady, you can buy it a whole foods or a health food store. it gets rid of excess anxiety without it being medication. i get so nervous that i gag and go to the bathroom all freakin day too.

Answer 11

i think it OKAY.
man i honestly thought i was the only one that has that same nervous problem! =] but im glad im not..
i have diarrhea wen im nervous as well. and i get sweaty palms and everything.. and you kno wat.. i have the SAME exact questions as to why i get like this... im barely 15.. i wonder if it will ware out eventually... but if ur worried and think ur the only one.. its ok because ur not! we are in this together! =] lol i juss wanted to tell u that ur not alone! good lock on ur essay! and its ok. everyne gets nervous.. and u will see that at the end, ur glad it done and over with!