should i let him go??

Question

there is this guy that i really like,in fact, i love that boy, and i told him that i like him, but he never told me how he feels. we still talk and mess around, but i just want 2 know how he feels about me. my friends are telling me that i should forget about him, but i dont know what to do, should i hold on or let go.

Answer 1

First of all think and analyze your own feelings for him...taking into consideration how much you know about him. If you do not know enough about him, but feel like you "love" him, it may be just an infatuation not love. However if you find yourself having great conversations and knowing him enough, then be mature and honest about it. Be carefull not to have great expectations, as he may not feel the same...just prepare yourself and be you :)

Answer 2

I don't think something like this is quite as easy as a simple "let go or hold on" because there are so many different layers to it. I don't know him personally, so I can't judge or say "yes, he thinks this" but I can suggest a few things and hope, somewhere along the line, I hit on something that sounds familiar.

Have you asked him how he feels, for a start? because a lot of guys don't feel comfortable talking about that sort of stuff openly unless someone else starts the conversation. If you aksed him directly, he's probably more willing to give you a straight answer. Whilst "messing around" is just like you telling him "okay i'll take what i can get from you" and it makes him think that, yeah, he can get away with it.

If you keep on just "messing about" and don't talk about it, somewhere along the line things will probably come to a head because you'll both realise you want different things. And the longer it carries on without talking about it, the more it's going to hurt when it happens. You telling him you like him is probably just an acknowledgement of feelings to him, if you want him to tell you how he feels back, you have to explain to him that you'd like to know if he feels the same.

Otherwise he's going to just carry on with how things are, and think everything is fine. If you haven't had a proper conversation with him about the whole thing, do that, and then we'll see what things are like.

Answer 3

The reason the boy doesn't want to tell you how he feels is
1. he likes you but is shy or 2. he doesn't like you but doesn't want let go of a good friendship. If you think he is a great friend just be friends and as time goes on you guys will grow together.

Answer 4

Well, it really depends on how long you've been messin around. If he's still here just for the sex, you need to know. So either ask him if he feels the same about you or your friends are right, forget him. There are plenty of fish that would be happy to let you kno how they feel :)

Answer 5

Define messing around? It sounds to me that you are giving him access to your body that he is not worthy to. He is taking every opportunity to play on your feelings to get a pleasure out of it. I agree with your friends. DUMP HIM. If a guy is showing no intentions with you but messing around. ITS TIME TO MOVE ON. You are on the giving part of this relationship, he is in the taking part and not giving you a thing in return. TIME TO MOVE ON. A heart knows what it wants, and yours wants someone who really cares about you. If you are getting thumbs down from friends also. I would see that as a big SIGN. Friends look after another and if they are saying this is bad and you know they want the best for you, this relationship is unhealthy, MOVE ON. Your large heart wanting to see the best in a person is getting in the way of your thinking. You have more then 1 friend pointing out this guys flaws. THATS A HUGE SIGN. MOVE ON. I had a friend, same sex who everyone warned me about. EVERYONE DID. I felt sorry for her. I thought how sad she was being ganged up on. I took her as a friend and guess what? THEY WERE RIGHT. EVERYTHING THEY SAID SHE DID SHE DID TO ME. I lived and learned. So bottom line? Friends know what they are talking about. I was warned, but chose not to listen. I paid the consequences of the one I chose to give benefit of the doubt to and got slapped like a newborn baby. The smackers missed the butt and hit my face. I WOKE UP. TIME YOU DO THE SAME.

Answer 6

Maybe you should limit the time that you hang out. Maybe he is not ready for a commitment. Keep him on the back-burner for now and move on to the next guy. Most of the times guys like a chase. If you are always available it's too simple for the guy. I noticed that when you ignore them that's when they call. Give him a challenge.

Answer 7

girl we are going through the same thing. i think u should let him go, i know guys like to play the tough role and don't want to show there true feelings but if he has never told u r showed u how he feels about u then it is not worth u wasting ur time and feelings on him.

Answer 8

let go, he isn't even telling u how he feels but messing around. sounds like he is just using you. and since all your friends are teling you to move on too they are seeing something from the big picture that you are missing because of how much you like this guy. Better let him go.

Answer 9

i have been in the same situation...... what i did was just see what happened after that and hung out with him and he never told me anything so i let him go we are still friends.... so i would say give it a little time and see how it goes see if he tells u or ask u out... if nothing happens then let him go... u never know u could get with him in the future

Answer 10

Dont let this guy take advantage of your feelings for him. If you didnt mess around with him do you think he'd even talk to you? Find someone who can appreciate all you have to offer.