Hard to get or not at all?

Question

Took a girl out a couple times, with 2 months seperation. First date didnt go well, so i didnt see her for a while. Ended up going out again and we had a lot of fun. Still didnt kiss her, but she showed signs she was interested by grabbing me when we were walking, asking me intimate questions and other social cues. She is a game player, plays hard to get and can and does get other guys. Its been 4 days since i brought her out, didnt call her because i told her to call me. She said she doesnt call boys and winked at me when i dropped her off. I know she is playing hard to get so i dont want to be the one to call her. She does go on other dates with guys too, so what do you guys think i should do? Think she is at all interested in me, just went out with me because she was bored or what? And if you think she is interested how do i pursue a girl that doesnt like it when a guy isnt a challenge to her. I want to ignore her to have her chase me but what if she doesnt. Help would be valuable!

I know a girl like this probably isnt worth chasing but i am interested in her so please dont say to try to find someone else! :)

Answer 1

Games can be fun, but it all depends on how long you really want to play. If she says she does not call boys, she has left the ball in your court and you blew it. If she goes out with other guys she probably is going out with the ones who play the game the way she likes to play. I for one do not call boys either. If they are not interested in me, I move on. I say call her! and don't waste too much time. She also may be the type who really gets into guys who really get into her, so don't let her down. Let her know if you are interested.

Answer 2

Well, it's tought when the girl you like is the equivalent of a player. She seems not to have any trouble getting her pick of the male population around. If you're hell bent on having her chase you, I'd say play the jealous game. Call her up! Talk for a bit, just casually. See what she's doin some night, and set her *** up for a surprise! If you can find out where she's gonna hang out, then petition on of your closer female friends to act as your date. If your friend is a good enough friend, then acting out a date, without getting really attached shouldn't be a problem. Take your "date" to the place you know, but "Forgot" she was going to, and let things play out. See how things go from there. Just an idea.

Answer 3

OK, if you're ready to let go of your pride and chase a girl You know is seeing other guys, at least have a plan! Give her the full court press. Call her just to say hello and ask how her day is going. Send her cards and flowers for no apparent reason. Show up where you know she'll be. Ask her intimate questions, tell her all the sexually explicit things you'd like to do with her if she were ever your girl. Peak her curiosity. Make her wonder about you.But be very careful, once the chase is over you might lose her or not like her. We sometimes tend to obsess over what we want when it appears to be out of our reach. Whatever like tricks and games it took to get her, you'll have to continue just to keep her interested. No relationship should be that much work or that one sided.

Answer 4

I dont call guys at first either..and I tell the guys just as she did. That is because I appreciate the old ways of dating. A guy wants to be with me, he'll show interest. Yeah, a girl wants to be wooed, won over...give the girl a call!!!
if you want to be chased, then go date a ugly girl.

Answer 5

You need to tell her this....that you like her and want to get to know her better but arent comfertable with her dating other guys. If she really likes you then she will stop and c u and u only. If she winked at u when she said she doesnt call guys she was flirting and wants u to call her, up to u whether u do or not. tho if she has your number and u dont call then she can call u...but if she doesnt then she prob isnt that interested.

Answer 6

Play her game and pretend to be not interest but like you're putting in some effort. Tell me.... do you actually consider having a future, stable relationship with this woman? If you don and think that she will be settling down for you, then full steam ahead is what I say but if not then put effort into another girl.

Answer 7

only contact her when necissary, now would be good. Just not all the time. Play your "challenger game" when she's around as opposed to playing the phone game (to see who can wait the longest). If she really did have fun with you, she'd im sure she'd love a call

Answer 8

I don't waste my time on game players or the "hard to get" scenario...either someone likes me or they don't...either I like them or I don't.

You do what you want to do here. If you like her that much, then call her...but be careful that you don't allow yourself to be played. Only she knows why she went out with you, but the idea of "making you work" to date her is rather arrogant. I doubt she's worth what she apparently thinks she is.

Answer 9

It sounds like the girl is kind of old fashioned and wants to be chased. I'm with her on that, too. Why don't you want to go after her? Do you like her?

Answer 10

it sounds like to me you are playing games with her if you want to call her then call her and stop acting like a stupid little boy. she told you straight up she dont call boys i say go girl at least she has some dignity and standards. so im saying to you if you want her go get her and stop being stupid. if you dont go after what you want in life you will have nothing.