the other day i broke up with my gf... there had been a lot of strain but a large factor was her beliefs, and strong opinions, regarding marriage before sex, religion, etc. i didn't need sex in the relationship, but i did want a physial relationship which she didn't feel was necessarily important. there was also a degree of ... ineptitude. i dont know. am i THAT wrong. im 17 shes 16. i think its legitimate to want that in a relationship. i know all the guys will be supporting me and girls will be calling me a bastard, but i expect that.
2007-01-15 14:13:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously you weren't meant to be together or you would both agree on the subject one way or another. It sucks that you broke up with her over sex, yeah, but the fact of the matter is, it was a big deal to you. If she wasn't giving you what you were looking for in a relationship and you probably weren't giving her what she needed, then why waste each others time?
2007-01-15 14:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by teelob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not a bastard, Your 17 and you want to experience life.
Physical wants and needs are very normal in 17 year old boys and there are many girls the same age looking for the same type of relationship.
You were obviously at different places in your lives now and what did sounded like the only real out come.
You would have been far more WRONG if you had have found someone else to be physical with while still in a relationship with her.
Well done for being courageous and honest with her.
Sure she's hurting now and you feel for her because you care for her but it really does sound like the best thing you could have done.
2007-01-15 14:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Venessa M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to be physical as in the means of touching or caressing not necessarily the sexual body parts,or a hug etc is not deemed as inapproipriate. Carrying it out without consent is. We as part of the animal kingdom need various stimulation including physical in order to show love and receive love, it is not sexual. Babies that have been starved of affection etc have been less settled and developmentally delayed. So as a female I am saying you are not wrong if this is what you are meaning by the need of a physical relaitonship. You are not wrong ending the relationship with your girl, you have been wise and identified other barriers to your relationship. It saves unneccessary heartache later. No it does not sound as tho you have dumped her because you could not have sex, there were other aspects both emotional and physical impacting on your future relationship. Being with someone special is meant to show, you can walk down the street with a female friend and not look any different than you would have with your girl. You needed to be able to demonstrate to her in public and private that she was special and this was forbidden by her. Once again her choice yes and you need to respect that but you have choices too you dont have to be in the relationship either. So chin up to your knockers, it is not always about sex it is simply about demonstrating to someone you care about them- a means of making them relalise they mean more to to you than the average girl.
2007-01-15 14:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a girl, and all im saying is that you guys weren't meant ot be. For her the relationship was about who you were inside and not close (more friendship) but for you it was everything a relationship should be. ive been going out with my boyfriend for 8.5 months and he doesn't pressure me, but then again we both have the same beliefs (no sex before marriage, and that kissing is ok but dont' go much farther) you need to love and be loved by the person you are dating, and also have similar beliefs to make a relationship work.
2007-01-15 14:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by music fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really contradict yourself here "bro". You say "i didn't need sex in the relationship, but i did want a physical relationship". In my opinion that's saying you wanted it. So if you're going to choose meaningless sex over a relationship, go for it. Don't blame her and make her out to be the "bad guy" because you're trying to push her to break her morals and she won't. I'm actually amazed there are still girls out there like her, there should be more.
2007-01-15 14:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Modus Operandi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not irrational. A relationship between a boy and a girl without a physical component is a friendship. Tell her you want to be friends and find a girl who shares your desire to have a more physical relationship.
2007-01-15 14:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by m'kay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're very young, so to break up with your girlfriend over that, this early... yes I think it's a stupid decision. But it sounds like you two have some other issues, and if you're not happy in a relationship, then why stay in it? Life is too short to be unhappy.
2007-01-15 14:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the element i'm not somewhat loopy about is my wifes love handles. It doesnt somewhat difficulty me that a lot or something, yet i'm basically not loopy about them. I nonetheless wouldnt replace something about her although. i love her precisely how she is. She changed into once somewhat skinny yet after she had the twins she's basically having truly difficulty dropping the perfect 15 lbs to get decrease back to her pre toddler weight.
2016-12-02 08:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man whatever who cares what any one calls u,just do what u have to do,u cant be in a relationship u are not happy with
2007-01-15 14:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
b with someone who will love u unconditionally..and with someone that shares the same values/beliefs. if you guys don't have any common grounds then it won't work unless someone give up something
2007-01-15 14:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋