Should i break up with him?

Question

i've been dating this close to perfect guy for almost 5 months now. he's sweet and he brings me coffee and he makes sure that i'm always happy. my parents, my friends, even my grandparents love him. his parents and siblings love me as well. they all think we're perfect for each other and that we will probably get married. even he thinks that. and i'm totally not ready for that though. i'm 17 and commitment like that scares me. like really bad. i love him and all but i feel like because of our relationship, everything, other than our realtionship, has stopped, including my walk with God which is really important to me. we've agreed to date until college. but that's in 7 months. and i don't think that i can go much longer. i just want to be free right now and date casually. i know it may sound selfish. but it's good for him too maybe. but i'm extremely confused and i don't know what to do. please help.

Answer 1

Talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Good Luck

Answer 2

Have you talk to your friend or family on how you feel? If not then you might want to think about. Like you said your self your only 17 and you got your whole life ahead of you. As hard as it is going to be you have to tell him how you truly feel. It's been 5 month and look at how he feels now, just think on what it will be like if it is another month or so. It is going to make it worse. So by telling him now is your best option. Just explain that you are to young to be in a committed relationship right now. You still love him but its not what I need right now and neither dose he. I know it will be hard but it better now then later. The longer you leave it the worse it is going to get!! Sorry if it does not help I in my option think it might be best. Try and look at this way, if you were him how would you feel if you waited. It's going to be hard no matter when you tell him, b ut you need to do it. Good luck

Answer 3

I think that you are probably a very kind and compassionate person, seeing as you realize the kindness that he shows to you. However, I would be honest with him and tell him that you both are too young to be taking a relationship so seriously and thinking too far into the future. You both are way too young to be thinking about the sacrament of marriage and will be better off just being kids right now. I am sure that even if he is disappointed, he will understand. Who knows, you may meet up again in 10 years and THEN decide to get married.

Answer 4

well you are young and perfectly natural to be feeling this way but I see on the other hand you are scared that if you let him go you may not ever find anyone quite like him. But there are plenty of guys out there and that shouldn't scare you. So go ahead and just go with the flow till you go to college or you can tell him now you want to break up with him but just make sure its what u really want. may want to consider how you would feel not having him in your life as much as he is now or even seeing him with another girl because if you break it off thats most likely whats going to happen.

Answer 5

Your walk with God should not be restricted because of a relationship. If anything it should be stronger, because God brought him to you. However, you are very young to make a long term commitment so do what you feel best. However, I know people who started dating in high school and are married 30, 40 and even 50 years later. So, if it is truly love, it can wait until your ready.

Answer 6

Sweetie, you shouldnt be in a relationship if you dont want to. That is not being selfish, Its being a regular teen. You are right, you are too young for that and you should be able to enjoy life. If he is 'almost perfect' then he will understand and realize that although he has feelings for you, you need to live certain experience by yourself. Good luck in finding whatever it is you are looking for.

Answer 7

When everybody else thinks the guy is perfect for you and you're not ready for the perfect guy that can be a problem.

I think you're too young to even think about the wedding march.

This maybe the first really mature decision you make and that's to make yourself happy first.....and let everybody deal with it....and they will.

Tell him how you feel...all of it, and if he really wants what makes you happy he may not like it but he'll understand.

Answer 8

if you want to be free, free yourself. there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be tied down. dont let anyone but you influence your decision. the last thing you want is to be committed to someone while having thoughts of other guys on your mind-- you may end up cheating, which can completely ruin your relationship if he finds out. if the two of you are meant to be together, you will be. right now just may not be the right time.

Answer 9

honey, it sounds like your heart is breaking and im sorry you are feeling that way but you are gonna have to have a serious talk with the boy and tell him straight up the way you feel and maybe he will break up with you but in all honesty you have to do the right thing and you know that god comes first dont leave him in the background he wants and totally deserves to be first and formost and then you will be able to tell where and what he wants for your life.

Answer 10

you should try and talk to him and tell him you need to be with friends and god, just as much (if not more w/ god) than him. haveing a boyfriends great, but what fun are stories without friends to tell. If he loves you he will understnad, and give you your space, also if you are not ready to talk about commitment tell him that. once again if he loves you he will understand. Good luck with everything.

Answer 11

Well, if you want to explore the world it's fine. It might be just a faze you're going through, if you feel you want to have fun for a while before you become committed, then by all means, it's what i would do.