me and my bf have been dating for 7 months, and we havnt said 'i love you' yet. (ps. we are in our early 20's and its a serious relationship)
i was wondering what you guys would think of it if a girl said it to you first? i know he loves me, and i know he knows i love him... brings up my 2nd ? -why don't you think he's said it?
please answer both ?'s thanks a lot, im stumped!
2007-01-15 14:06:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd love for someone to say it to me first, if they truely meant it, and you can always tell when they do. I don't see a problem with her saying it first, actually, in a serious relationship, it is typically the woman that get's it moving like that.
As for the second bit...maybe he's worried. There a million unknowns with announcing to someone that you love them. Is she going to just smile and nod? Will she say it back? Will she flip out and run? There's all kinds of things that roam the mind when thinking about telling them. You found this out yourself. Don't think, do.
2007-01-15 14:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by zellozigglers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's silly but this special word sometimes make people scared and the one saying it can believe that it may offend and/or frighten the receiver. But it is such a lovely word and when used properly can and does brighten the skies above us. I would say go for it and do not allow any inhibition to hold you back.
As for the second part of your question most guys that I know that are or have been in a serious relationship are very pleased to have this told to them. And if your gut is telling you that he has the same feelings then I wouldn't be surprised at all if he was to return this sentiment to you also. Best of luck and love.
2007-01-15 22:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once read somewhere that a girl should never say "I love you" first. I think that's crap. If you feel it, then why not say it. Keep in mind that he may be a little freaked out at first, that's somewhat of a big deal to guys. Try not to get too offended if he doesn't say it back. I waited a while until I responded to my boyfriend...luckily he was patient.
He might be afraid to say it to you, not sure how you'll respond. What do you have to lose? The worst that will happen is he doesn't respond, then again he may be relieved that you said it.
Good Luck!
2007-01-15 22:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions state more than words. Three lousy words dont really mean anything, you can say them and dont mean it or even act it. Read between the lines, if his behavior and treatment of you are favorable and as you say it is a committed relationship then I think you know the answer. Guys are not good with words anyway. Go ahead say those words if you must but be careful all is a rosy as you think as it may scare him off
2007-01-15 22:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky, but I guess I wouldn't / don't mind if girls say it first. I'm only 16 but I have been in a few relationships, including my current 1 1/2 year relationship. If I were in your position, I would talk to him about it, ask him why, he mind have attachment issues, or is just afraid. Talk to him, see what he says, and if he's comfortable with it, tell him you love him.
2007-01-15 22:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he hasnt said it because he isn't sure about what he trully feels or how to say it. Also it might be because he isn't trying to rush into things. I think you should wait until he says it but do what your heart tells you to do.
2007-01-15 22:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably will think youre being bold.
If youre absolutely sure you love him be careful.
Ive said that enough times to people to regret it
2007-01-15 22:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not an easy thing for guys to say, even if he does love u as you say. just say it to him when u guys are havin a close moment, but not during sex, cause if its during sex then u cant be sure he means it if he says it back.
2007-01-15 22:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would love it if my gf tells me dat. i would hug her so tight that she cant able to breath and whisper in her ears i love you too.
go ahead.
2007-01-15 22:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say it... by 7 months... it cant be too early ... but only if you trully feel it.
2007-01-15 22:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by danuh_bananuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋